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Therapists Talking About Their Personal Experience With Therapy

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Somatic experiencing therapy helps regulate emotions.

In season 2, episode 2 (part 2) of the Shifting Our Shit (S.O.S) podcast, therapist Britt Riddle,
D.Min., MAMFT shares her personal experience with somatic experiencing therapy. She
explains that as a competitive gymnast as a child, she was very in tune with her body, but after
experiencing trauma as a teenager, she lost her connection with her body and the wisdom it held.
Somatic experiencing therapy is based on the idea that traumatic experiences can get trapped or
frozen in our bodies, which can keep us from fully processing a traumatic experience, leading to
dysregulation in our nervous systems. Somatic experiencing therapy invites awareness and
expression of physical sensations and movement associated with the trauma in order to release
“frozen” energy—this might look like screaming in a safe environment like a parked car or
letting tears freely flow rather than trying to block them.
Britt also incorporates somatic work into her practice of therapy, particularly when working with
individuals in helping professions who often have to suppress their own emotions in order to be
“on” for other people, which over time, can lead to a build-up of stress.

Pay attention to your body.

Many of us go through life without paying much attention to the physical sensations and signals
that our bodies are sending us. This lack of awareness can lead to a variety of problems,
including difficulty managing emotions, chronic stress, and even physical health issues.
Britt discusses how holding our breath during times of stress can contribute to feelings of panic
and dysregulation. By practicing breath work, we can create a muscle memory of deep and
regulated breathing. This can help us stay grounded and calm during moments of heightened
emotions or stress.

Britt also talks about the importance of grounding practices, such as intentionally noticing your
feet on the floor (or ground) in order to feel connected to the earth. Mindfulness does not have to
require a huge time commitment, but can be incorporated into daily life—taking a few moments
at a red light to focus on your breath or noticing sensations happening in your body. These
mindfulness practices can create a greater sense of emotional awareness and nervous system
regulation.

Grounding is important for self-care.

Grounding is an important aspect of managing personal energy and practicing self-care. Megan,
a Reiki master, discusses how our energy is often concentrated in the upper chakras (the mind),

causing us to feel disconnected from our bodies and the present moment. The shift this, Megan
suggests the practice of grounding, which brings the energy down through the body and into the
feet, creating a sense of connection and presence. This can be done through practices such as
stomping your feet or wiggling your toes.
Grounding can also be done with our thoughts. By consciously naming the experience of being
grounded, we can create a pause in our thoughts and bring ourselves to the present moment. This
pause allows for a deeper sense of awareness and a break from the constant stream of thoughts
and distractions that put us into autopilot mode.
Britt is an expert in working with clients who want to increase self-care and decrease compassion
fatigue and burnout. Her calm and grounded presence is appreciated by those who have worked
with her, and she personally understands the challenges faced by individuals in helping
professions. Her approach to therapy emphasizes the importance of grounding, mindfulness, and
body awareness to help clients maintain nervous system regulation, which can lead to healthier
and more fulfilling lives.

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Meet Britt Riddle, DMin, MAMFT!

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Reassessing midlife for fulfillment—transition from minister to therapist.

In season 2, episode 2 (part 1) of Shifting Our Shit (S.O.S.) podcast, Megan introduces Britt
Riddle, a therapist at The Mindfulness Center. Britt is originally from Louisville, but more
recently she lived in Virginia and Western Kentucky while serving in congregations as an
ordained minister. Britt describes how she found herself drawn to the moments she calls “deep
spaces,” in ministry such as the sacred conversations that happened in hospital rooms, in nursing
homes, and at funeral services. Though no longer serving professionally in a congregation, Britt
continues to engage in spiritual practices by attending a Quaker meeting (where there is no
ordained leadership) where she is learning new ways of being in community with people without
being responsible for leading or managing the space.
Britt holds both a Master of Divinity (M.Div.) degree and a Doctor of Ministry (D.Min.) degree,
and it was this path and her own experience of burnout that eventually led her to return to
Louisville in order to pursue a degree in marriage and family therapy. Britt shares that being a
therapist had always been in the back of her mind, but the timing was not right to make this shift
until more recently.

Self-care for sensitive people.

Britt self-identifies as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and shares how the “sensitive” trait is
often overlooked and/or misunderstood—as a personality it exists on a continuum—we all have
some level of sensitivity and those with higher levels tend to take on more energy and feelings
from others. Britt discusses how having high empathy and high sensitivity traits led to
compassion fatigue and burnout as a minister, and ultimately, a career shift to become a
therapist.
For those who are HSPs, Britt describes the importance of recognizing and honoring your needs
for downtime and solitude in order to process and recharge emotions. HSPs are often drawn to
personal and professional work that involve caring for others, which makes the need for
boundaries essential in order to maintain emotional and physical health.
Britt highlights the importance for HSPs of seeking support and professional help when
needed—especially when feeling emotionally overwhelmed. She pursued a degree in marriage
and family therapy to better understand her own experiences and now works with clients who are
experiencing compassion fatigue and burnout.

Pause before reacting to emotions.

Britt highlights the practice of pausing before reacting to emotions. In her own experience Britt
does this by paying close attention to her internal, somatic experience, allowing her to recognize
when her heart rate is increasing and any other physical symptoms she may notice. These
physical cues serve as a reminder to pause and take a moment before responding/reacting to a
situation, which allows our brain to kick in and make active, mindful decisions about how to
respond (rather than react in a way that may be unhelpful). Mindfulness involves being present in
the moment and fully aware of one’s thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations. By practicing
mindfulness, we can become more attuned to our emotions and recognize when we are starting to
feel dysregulated or overwhelmed.

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Yes, Therapists Go To Therapy!

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Megan Bayles Bartley is a mental health and relationship expert. Over the last twenty years, she has honed her unique skills as a therapist and now shares her knowledge with you in Season 2 of her podcast – Shifting Our Shit.

 

In Episode 1, Part 2, Megan talks about her own experience with therapy over the last 30-plus year starting when she was diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue at 16 years old and was told “it’s all in your head!”

 

About Megan.

Therapy provides support and growth. It is a valuable tool that can help individuals navigate through life’s challenges, gain insight into themselves, and develop the necessary skills to lead a fulfilling and meaningful life.

 

In this episode, Megan Bayless-Bartley shares her personal experience with therapy. She first sought therapy at the age of 16 when she was diagnosed with chronic fatigue. Medical professionals believed her condition was a psychosomatic response to stress, and therapy was recommended to help her identify and manage the underlying stressors.

 

Megan describes herself as a firstborn, type A personality, and a high empath. She also admits to being a deep thinker and running on the anxious side. She had a tendency towards perfectionism and exhibited signs of OCD, such as vacuuming her bedroom carpet with precision. These characteristics, combined with certain family dynamics, contributed to her need for therapy.

 

At the age of 16, Megan started therapy with a marriage and family therapist named Joy. This experience provided her with a trusted adult who offered undivided attention and a safe space to explore her thoughts and emotions. Megan emphasizes the importance of having a therapist who didn’t judge her or make her feel crazy or wrong. This support allowed her to be herself and work through her difficulties.

 

Megan continued therapy on and off throughout her life. In her 20s, she sought therapy again when she was struggling to navigate a romantic relationship with someone dealing with addiction. Therapy provided her with guidance and coping mechanisms during this challenging time.

 

When Megan started her master’s program in marriage and family therapy, she found it beneficial to seek therapy herself. She needed help managing her anxiety about her future and the unknowns that lay ahead. This experience highlighted the importance of therapists seeking therapy for their own well-being and growth.

 

Therapy provides support by offering a non-judgmental space for individuals to express themselves and explore their thoughts and emotions. It allows them to gain insight into their own behaviors, patterns, and underlying issues. Through therapy, individuals can develop coping strategies, improve their communication skills, and learn to navigate relationships more effectively.

 

Therapy also promotes personal growth. It helps individuals identify and challenge negative beliefs and thought patterns that may be holding them back. It encourages self-reflection and self-awareness, enabling individuals to make positive changes in their lives. Therapy provides the tools and resources necessary for individuals to overcome obstacles, improve their mental health, and achieve their goals.

 

Anxiety in relationships requires therapy.

Anxiety in relationships is a common issue that many individuals face. It can manifest in various ways, from controlling behavior to emotional vulnerability. However, therapy has proven to be a valuable resource in addressing and managing anxiety within relationships. Megan shares her personal experiences with anxiety in her own relationship and how therapy played a crucial role in her journey.

 

Megan recalls meeting her now-husband during a time of high anxiety in her life. Recognizing the importance of compatibility and open communication, she took the initiative to involve him in therapy sessions. This decision highlights the significance of therapy in addressing relationship concerns and fostering understanding between partners. By engaging in a couple’s assessment, they were able to explore topics that they may not have discussed otherwise. This assessment served as a foundation for their relationship and allowed them to navigate potential challenges more effectively.

 

Premarital counseling further exemplifies the role of therapy in addressing anxiety within relationships. Megan wanted to ensure that her marriage did not replicate the negative aspects of her parents’ relationship. By seeking outside help, she and her husband were able to address their concerns and establish a healthier foundation for their marriage. Premarital therapy provided them with the necessary tools to communicate openly and honestly, setting them up for success in their relationship.

 

Therapy also played a crucial role in Megan’s personal journey with anxiety. She acknowledges the challenges of living with someone and knowing that it is a long-term commitment. The anxiety she experienced in this context led her to seek therapy once again. By engaging in couples therapy, Megan was able to explore the root causes of her anxiety and work towards healing and growth. Through therapy, she learned to trust her partner emotionally and address the emotional hurts from her past. This vulnerability and growth within the relationship were vital in managing her anxiety and fostering a healthier dynamic.

 

Furthermore, Megan’s decision to seek therapy was influenced by her desire to prevent her anxiety from affecting her children. Recognizing the potential impact of her anxiety on her children, she made it a priority to get her anxiety under control. Therapy provided her with the necessary tools and strategies to manage her anxiety and prevent it from negatively impacting her children. This demonstrates the proactive approach therapy offers in addressing anxiety within relationships and its potential ripple effects on family dynamics.

 

Therapy is important for growth.

Therapy is important for growth. It provides individuals with the necessary support, guidance, and tools to navigate life’s challenges and achieve personal development. Megan shares her own experience in this episode with therapy and how it has been instrumental in her growth and progress.

 

  • Megan emphasizes the importance of being emotionally available to her children and putting her anxiety into perspective. She recognizes that how she shows up with her kids matters and that she needs to be in an emotionally open and vulnerable space. Therapy has helped her own her imperfections, acknowledge when she is wrong, and repair any parenting mistakes. By modeling this behavior for her children, she teaches them the importance of accountability, growth, and repair in relationships.

 

Throughout her life, Megan has sought therapy during various periods of difficulty and transition. She attended group therapy with new moms to discuss the challenges of motherhood. When her father passed away, therapy provided her with the necessary support to navigate grief and the changes it brought to her family dynamics. Megan’s experience showcases how therapy can be a valuable resource during times of loss and change.

 

  • Furthermore, Megan highlights that therapy does not always have to be traditional talk therapy. There are other modalities such as energy healing and Reiki work to release tension and promote healing in the body. This shows that therapy can take many forms and individuals can find what works best for them in their own healing journey.

 

  • Megan also emphasizes the importance of finding a therapist or practitioner that one trusts and feels comfortable with. She describes her current therapist as a coach and energy healer who provides her with the support and guidance she needs at this stage of her life. This highlights the importance of finding a therapeutic relationship that aligns with one’s specific needs and goals.

 

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Meet Megan Bayles Bartley

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Megan Bayles Bartley is a mental health and relationship expert. Over the last twenty years, she has honed her unique skills as a therapist and now shares her knowledge with you on her podcast – Shifting Our Shit. In Part 1 of this episode, she talks about her past and how she ended up becoming a therapist. Listen further to Episode 1, Part 2 where she talks about her own experience with therapy over the last 30-plus year.

About Megan.

 

In this episode, Megan addresses the common feeling of being stuck in a routine, like a hamster on a hamster wheel, and not making any progress. She acknowledges the midlife stage as a time for reassessment and reflect on whether if she has accomplished all that she has set out to do in life and if she feels fulfilled. It is normal to question what is working and what is not during this phase.

 

Megan emphasizes the importance of reclaiming one’s time, energy, and joy in order to make the most out of the second half of life. She invites listeners who resonate with these feelings to join her on this podcast journey. She introduces herself as Megan Bayles Bartley and expresses her excitement about hosting the podcast solo, though she will be accompanied by the therapy dog, Lemon Drop.

 

Megan shares her background, starting with growing up in Seattle, Washington, and attending the University of Washington. She initially wanted to become a naturopathic physician and created her own major called Community Health Management. However, after struggling with hard science classes, she switched gears and explored art as a potential career path. Eventually, her interest in wellness versus illness led her to pursue a degree in marriage and family therapy at the Presbyterian seminary in Louisville, Kentucky.

 

During her time in Tucson, Arizona, working for the Presbyterian Church, Megan discovered her passion for listening, talking, and counseling while interacting with students at the University of Arizona. This experience prompted her to pursue a career as a therapist. With the church’s support, she applied to a seminary program that offered a degree in marriage and family therapy. This field aligned with her systemic approach, focusing on understanding individuals within the context of her various systems and influences.

 

Megan moved to Louisville, Kentucky, to pursue her master’s degree and had a great experience. She met her husband while in Louisville but eventually moved to Austin, Texas, where she practiced as a therapist for 11 years. Nine years ago, they returned to Louisville and started her solo therapy practice.

 

The podcast episode ends with Megan’s introduction to the upcoming season, where she will explore mindfulness and the Mindfulness team. However, the overarching theme of reassessing and reclaiming one’s life remains prevalent throughout the episode.

 

Finding peace in midlife.

After three years of starting a solo therapy practice in Louisville, Megan decided to expand and create the Mindfulness Center, a space for therapists to practice and develop their own practice within. 

 

The goal of the Mindfulness Center is to help people find peace, joy, and a sense of calm in their lives.

 

  • Megan shares that her own experience of being a fairly anxious person in her younger years, growing up in an emotionally unstable household, led her to become controlling and perfectionistic. She emphasizes the importance of therapy in her own life and how it has shaped her as the founding director of the Mindfulness Center.

 

  • Megan also discusses the challenges that many high-functioning individuals face as they reach their 40s and 50s. She refers to this stage as the “fuck it 40s,” where individuals may feel overwhelmed, tired, and worn out. It is a time of redefining one’s life and asking important questions about what they want out of life and how they want to live the second half of their life.

 

  • Megan acknowledges that many high achievers find it difficult to give themselves permission to not constantly achieve and to simply enjoy where they have gotten to. High achievers explore the idea of finding fulfillment in relaxation and enjoying the present moment, which can be challenging for those who are type A personalities.

 

  • The episode also touches on the idea of preparing for the future, such as when children leave the house and exploring new opportunities for travel or personal growth. Megan discusses her own mindset of always looking for the next challenge and how she enjoys taking on home improvement projects.

 

Prioritize self-awareness as a therapist.

Therapists play a crucial role in helping individuals navigate through their emotional and mental struggles. They provide support, guidance, and tools for personal growth and healing. However, it is essential for therapists to prioritize self-awareness in their own lives. This podcast episode emphasizes the significance of therapists seeking their own therapy and being self-aware in their practice.

 

  • One of the main reasons therapists could prioritize self-awareness is to ensure they are providing the best possible care to their clients. By engaging in therapy themselves, therapists gain insight into their own emotions, triggers, and biases. This self-reflection allows them to better understand their clients’ experiences and offer more empathetic and effective treatment. It also helps therapists recognize and address any personal issues that may interfere with their ability to provide unbiased and objective support.

 

  • Moreover, therapists who prioritize self-awareness are more likely to be high-functioning professionals. Megan mentions that clients may not go further than their therapists have gone, suggesting that therapists need to continuously challenge themselves and strive for personal growth. Being aware of their own emotional state and personal limitations allows therapists to better manage their own well-being and prevent burnout. It also enables them to model healthy coping mechanisms and resilience for their clients.

 

  • Furthermore, self-aware therapists are better equipped to handle the complexities and nuances of therapy. As Megan suggests, therapists who are emotionally aware can adapt to the ever-changing dynamics of each session. They can respond appropriately to their clients’ needs and emotions, creating a safe and supportive environment for healing. By being self-aware, therapists can also recognize when they need to seek consultation or refer clients to other professionals who may be better suited to address specific issues.

 

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Transitions and Resets

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THIS. IS. BIG! In the final episode of Season 1 of Shifting Our Shit, Rob hands over the reins of the S.O.S. Podcast to Megan. They wrap up the past year (and 28 episodes!) and talk about what they have learned and what they appreciate about each other. Megan has much gratitude for Rob as he was integral in helping get this podcast launched. It is with both sadness and joy that we launch Rob off to focus his attention on other things. We will still hear from him from time to time, just not every episode. Stay tuned for Season Two coming any day now as we “Meet the Team” at The Mindfulness Center. Hear why therapists decide to become therapists (messed up childhoods, no doubt! lol j/k) and therapists’ own experience with therapy!

Transition can be bittersweet.

Transition can be bittersweet. This is a sentiment that many of us can relate to, especially in times of change and uncertainty. The SOS Podcast recently aired its final episode of the season, marking a transition for the show. Megan and Rob discussed their plans for the future, the emotions of both excitement and sadness were palpable. This is a common experience for anyone who has gone through a significant life change, whether it be graduating from school, starting a new job, or moving to a new city.

Megan and Rob likened their transition to graduation season, where one leaves behind a familiar environment and moves on to something new. While there is excitement and anticipation for what lies ahead, there is also a sense of loss for what is being left behind. This is a natural part of the human experience, and it is important to acknowledge and honor these emotions.

As Megan and Rob discussed their highlights from the past season, it was clear that they had created a special bond through their podcasting journey. They had shared their thoughts, opinions, and personal experiences with their listeners, and in doing so, had created a sense of community. This is one of the many benefits of podcasting, as it allows individuals to connect with others who share similar interests and experiences.

However, transitions also bring new opportunities. Megan will be taking over as the new host of the podcast, and Rob will be taking on a different role. This change will allow for new voices and perspectives to be heard and will bring fresh energy to the show. While it may be difficult to say goodbye to the old, it is important to embrace the new and look forward to what lies ahead.

In conclusion, transition can be bittersweet. It is natural to feel a sense of loss when leaving behind something familiar, but it is also important to embrace new opportunities and experiences. Megan and Rob demonstrated this sentiment through the discussion of their upcoming transition. As they move on to new roles and new experiences, they will undoubtedly continue to inspire their listeners to embrace change and look forward to the future.

Stay connected and be conversational.

Throughout season 1 of the podcast, Megan and Rob emphasized the importance of staying connected and being conversational. As therapists, it can be easy to feel isolated and disconnected from others, especially when working with clients all day. However, Megan and Rob recognized the value of connecting with others in their field and in their personal lives.

By staying connected, therapists can sharpen their skills and learn from others’ experiences. Megan and Rob highlighted the benefits of interacting with colleagues and friends, whether through professional associations or casual conversations. These connections can help therapists feel less isolated and more supported in their work.

In addition to staying connected, Megan and Rob emphasized the importance of being conversational in their approach to therapy. Rather than relying solely on clinical techniques and jargon, they sought to create a warm and inviting environment for their clients. By being conversational, therapists can build rapport with their clients and create a safe space for them to share their thoughts and feelings.

This conversational approach was also evident in the podcast episodes. Megan and Rob engaged in casual, yet informative conversations about a variety of topics related to mental health and therapy. By adopting this approach, they were able to connect with their listeners and make complex topics more accessible.

As Megan and Rob move on to new endeavors, they will undoubtedly carry these values with them. By staying connected and being conversational, they can continue to make a positive impact on their clients and the broader mental health community. Their podcast serves as a reminder of the importance of these values and the power of connection and conversation.

The team at Mindfulness Center shares vulnerability.

The podcast episode centers around the upcoming season, which will focus on introducing the team at the Mindfulness Center. Megan and Rob plan to record conversations with each team member, allowing listeners to hear from them and potentially see them on video. The goal is to expand curiosity and learning among listeners by sharing each therapist’s unique approach and experience with therapy.

As mentioned, vulnerability is important in creating a safe and supportive environment. By being vulnerable themselves, they hope to encourage others to do the same. This vulnerability has allowed for natural compatibility and understanding between team members, much like playing doubles in tennis. It has also allowed for flexibility and growth among therapists, as they are encouraged to make their practice their own.

Megan started the group practice did so with the intention of using the synergy of the group to help everyone succeed. It was never about making herself look good, but rather supporting each therapist in doing what they do best. By taking care of the business side of things, she allows her team to focus on therapy with their clients. This support and trust among team members is evident in the way they speak about each other and their abilities.

The importance of vulnerability and connection cannot be overstated in the mental health field. Clients need to feel safe and supported in order to open up and make progress in therapy. By modeling vulnerability and creating a supportive environment among team members, the mindfulness center is setting a positive example for the broader mental health community. As Megan and Rob move on to new endeavors, they will carry these values with them and continue to make a positive impact.

How vulnerability, intuition, and support create connections.

In the podcast, Megan and Rob discuss the importance of realness, intuition, and support in creating a connection between therapists and clients. They emphasize:

  • The value of being authentic and not striving for perfection- this approach allows clients to feel comfortable and supported, which is crucial for effective therapy.
  • Intuition in therapy- when therapists are comfortable in their own skin and understand their strengths and weaknesses, they can better connect with clients on an intuitive level. This connection allows for deeper understanding and empathy, which is essential for creating a safe and supportive therapeutic environment.
  • Create a nice environment for clients- clients come to therapy to feel better and creating a calming and supportive environment can help them achieve this goal. This includes intentional office design, the language used on the website, and the overall vibe of the practice.

The episode emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, intuition, and support to create connections in therapy. By creating a supportive and authentic environment, therapists can help clients feel safe and supported, which is essential for effective therapy. These values are crucial not just for the Mindfulness Center, but for the broader mental health community as well. As Megan and Rob move on to new endeavors, they will carry these values with them and continue to make a positive impact.

Own who you are.

One of the key messages of the podcast is the importance of owning who you are. This means being true to yourself, embracing your quirks and idiosyncrasies, and not worrying about what others may think. Megan and Rob discuss how this applies not just to their own lives, but also to their work as therapists.

For example, Megan talks about how she used to feel pressure to conform to certain expectations in her therapy practice. She worried about being seen as “weird” or “out there” if she didn’t follow the traditional clinical model. However, she eventually realized that by embracing her own style and personality, she could actually be more effective as a therapist. Clients respond better when they feel that their therapist is authentic and genuine, rather than just following a script.

Megan also discusses how she had to set boundaries in her practice, such as not seeing couples anymore. While she was initially hesitant to do this, she ultimately found that it allowed her to focus on the clients she was most passionate about working with. By owning her own preferences and needs, she was able to provide better care for her clients.

The concept of owning who you are extends beyond just therapy, of course. It’s a message that can apply to all areas of life. By being true to ourselves, we can build stronger relationships, make more meaningful contributions to our communities, and find greater fulfillment in our work and personal lives.

However, it’s not always easy to own who you are. There may be societal pressures or personal insecurities that make us feel like we need to conform or hide certain aspects of ourselves. It takes courage and vulnerability to be open and honest about who we are, especially in a world that can be judgmental and critical.

When we feel safe and supported, we are more likely to be ourselves and embrace our true identities. This can lead to greater happiness, confidence, and success.

In conclusion, the podcast’s message of owning who you are is a powerful one. By embracing our own unique qualities and being true to ourselves, we can live more fulfilling and authentic lives. This message is especially important in therapy, where clients need to feel safe and supported in order to make progress. By creating a supportive and authentic environment, therapists can help clients own who they are and find greater happiness and fulfillment.

How to show up differently to see change.

  • Take responsibility for our own actions and emotions– this means being mindful of our thoughts and feelings and taking steps to improve ourselves.
  • Being true to ourselves– embrace our unique qualities and perspectives and not be afraid to be different. By doing so, we can attract like-minded people who share our values and beliefs.

We all face challenges and struggles, but by showing up differently, we can overcome them and find greater happiness and fulfillment. This means being open to new perspectives, taking risks, and being willing to learn and grow.

Gratitude shifts negative mindset.

One of the most effective ways to shift from a negative mindset to a positive one is through gratitude. By focusing on the things we are grateful for, no matter how small they may seem, we can shift our perspective and find joy in the present moment.

You can do a simple exercise of writing thank you notes to people we appreciate. This act of gratitude not only benefits the recipient but also has a ripple effect on our own emotional state. By expressing gratitude, we create a positive energy that can spread to others.

Gratitude is a powerful tool for shifting our mindset because it helps us focus on the positive aspects of our lives. It can be easy to get caught up in negative thinking, especially during challenging times. However, by intentionally focusing on the good things in our lives, we can train our minds to see the positive instead of the negative.

In addition to its emotional benefits, gratitude has been shown to have physical health benefits as well. Studies have found that practicing gratitude can improve sleep quality, reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety, and even boost the immune system.

Overall, the podcast’s message of gratitude is a powerful one. By focusing on the things we are grateful for, we can shift our mindset and find greater happiness and fulfillment in our lives. Whether it’s through writing thank you notes or simply taking a few moments each day to reflect on what we are grateful for, incorporating gratitude into our daily lives can have a profound impact on our well-being.

 

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The Magic of Ted Lasso

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Megan and Rob are back with Season 1, Episode 27 of the SOS Podcast, where they talk about their weekend plans and the idea of “calling your shot” as seen in the popular show Ted Lasso. Megan shares her recent experience of appearing on live TV and feeling confident in her performance, while Rob hints at a personal accomplishment related to hypnosis. The hosts delve into the benefits of Ericksonian hypnosis, which Megan is studying and finds to be a natural and effective form of healing.

 

Ted Lasso inspires natural healing.

Ted Lasso, the popular television series, has become a source of inspiration for natural healing. The show’s main character, Ted Lasso, is a positive and optimistic coach who inspires his team to reach their full potential. His message of positivity and kindness has resonated with viewers and has even inspired some to explore natural healing techniques.

 

One of the most memorable scenes from the show is when Ted Lasso is at a bar with the owner of the club and her ex-husband. He talks about the importance of not judging others and being curious. He even calls his shot in a game of darts, choosing “barbecue sauce” as his target. This scene has become a symbol of the show’s message of positivity and optimism and has inspired many to adopt a similar mindset.

 

Megan has been inspired by Ted Lasso’s message of natural healing. She is currently studying the Ericksonian hypnosis technique, which is based on neuroscience and gene expression. This technique is more conversational and indirect than traditional hypnosis and focuses on natural healing through positive suggestion and visualization.

 

Megan sees the Ericksonian hypnosis technique as the epitome of natural healing. It is a way to tap into the body’s natural healing abilities and to promote positive change through positivity and suggestion. She believes that this technique can be a powerful tool for anyone looking to improve their mental and physical health.

 

The message of Ted Lasso is one of positivity, kindness, and natural healing. The show has inspired many to adopt a similar mindset and to explore natural healing techniques like the Ericksonian hypnosis technique. By promoting positivity and kindness, Ted Lasso has become a symbol of hope and healing for many and has inspired a new generation of natural healers.

 

Ericksonian therapy.

Ericksonian therapy is a form of hypnosis that focuses on storytelling and shifting perspectives. This technique is often used to help people get unstuck and to facilitate aha moments. In the show, Ted Lasso, the titular character exhibits many traits that align with Ericksonian therapy. For example, he often tells stories and uses metaphors to teach lessons, allowing the listener to come up with their own answers and perspectives. This technique is effective because it allows the listener to wire the lesson into their brain in a more meaningful way.

 

Ted Lasso’s coaching team also exhibits traits of Ericksonian therapy. Each member has their own specific role, and Ted doesn’t get into a hardcore, tell-you-what-to-do parental role. Instead, he trusts his team to come up with their own solutions and perspectives. This promotes a sense of collaboration and trust, which are important aspects of Ericksonian therapy.

 

In addition to promoting positivity and kindness, Ted Lasso also explores natural healing techniques like EMDR. While EMDR is not technically part of Ericksonian therapy, it does share some similarities. For example, both techniques focus on shifting perspectives and facilitating aha moments. In the show, Ted inadvertently teaches others to adopt these techniques, promoting natural healing and self-discovery.

 

Overall, Ted Lasso is a great example of how positivity, kindness, and natural healing techniques can be effective in promoting mental health and well-being. By exploring Ericksonian therapy and other natural healing techniques, the show has inspired a new generation of healers and therapists who prioritize collaboration, trust, and kindness in their work.

 

Hypnosis is not mind control.

One of the techniques explored in the podcast is hypnosis, which has often been misunderstood as a form of mind control. However, the episode explains that hypnosis is actually a way of helping individuals relax their conscious thinking just enough so that their subconscious can come into play and either make sense of things or help find order or give more information. It is not about controlling someone’s thoughts or actions, but rather about creating an environment that is accepting, compassionate, and open, and allowing individuals to find their own answers.

 

The podcast also emphasizes that hypnosis is not a one-size-fits-all solution and that everyone processes information differently. Some people are visual learners or processors, while others are audio or kinesthetic feeling-based. Hypnosis, therefore, needs to be tailored to each individual’s unique needs and preferences.

 

Megan and Rob also touch on the power of storytelling in hypnosis. They explain that it doesn’t matter what the story is, but rather the storyteller’s positive trance that invites listeners to also go into a positive trance, making them more willing to hear what is being said. This is similar to how Ted Lasso’s positivity and enthusiasm create a positive environment that inspires and motivates those around him.

 

Remember, hypnosis is not mind control, but rather a natural healing technique that can be effective in promoting mental health and well-being. It is about creating an environment that is accepting, compassionate, and open, and allowing individuals to find their own answers. By understanding and embracing the power of hypnosis, we can help individuals overcome mental health challenges and lead happier and more fulfilling lives.

 

Flexibility in mindfulness practice.

Megan and Rob discuss the concept of flexibility in mindfulness practice. The Mindfulness Center, as the name suggests, aims to help individuals become more mindful, but not necessarily in a rigid or prescriptive way. The center’s therapists do not take an expert role or give advice but rather empower the client to find their own solutions. This approach is based on the idea that individuals have the capacity to activate their subconscious and heal themselves, with the therapist serving as a guide rather than a director.

 

They also highlight the importance of flexibility in the practice of mindfulness. While mindfulness techniques such as breathing exercises can be helpful, they are not the only way to become more mindful. The center’s therapists use a variety of approaches, including Ericksonian techniques, to help clients become more mindful in their own way. This flexibility allows individuals to find what works best for them and to develop their own mindfulness practice.

 

The concept of flexibility in mindfulness practice is important because it recognizes that each individual is unique and that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to mindfulness. By allowing individuals to find their own way of becoming more mindful, the center empowers them to take control of their own mental health and well-being. This approach is in line with the idea of hypnosis as a natural healing technique that promotes mental health and well-being by creating an environment that is accepting, compassionate, and open.

 

Flexibility in mindfulness practice is essential for promoting mental health and well-being. By empowering individuals to find their own way of becoming more mindful, the Mindfulness Center helps them take control of their own mental health and well-being. This approach is in line with the power of hypnosis as a natural healing technique that can help individuals overcome mental health challenges and lead happier and more fulfilling lives.

 

Positive mindset leads to growth.

Megan and Rob discuss the power of positive mindset and how it can lead to growth and progress in various aspects of life. They emphasize the importance of shifting one’s thinking to see a bigger rainbow of options instead of being rigid in one’s beliefs and choices. By doing so, individuals can become more flexible and open-minded in their decision-making, leading to better outcomes and personal growth.

 

Megan and Rob also draw parallels between the positive mindset of the character Ted Lasso in the TV series and the benefits of having a positive trance in one’s personal and professional life. Ted Lasso’s intention to help his players become better human beings, not just better players, is a testament to the power of positive mindset and how it can impact those around us.

 

Furthermore, they highlight the importance of values and their crucial role in shaping our mindset and actions. By staying true to our values and beliefs, we can maintain a positive trance and create positive interactions with others.

 

In conclusion, the podcast reinforces the idea that a positive mindset leads to growth and progress in various aspects of life. By being flexible, open-minded, and true to our values, we can create positive interactions with others and promote our mental health and well-being. The power of a positive mindset and hypnosis as a natural healing technique can help individuals overcome mental health challenges and lead happier and more fulfilling lives.

 

Goodbye and thanks, Megan.

However, Megan and Rob also remind us of the importance of saying goodbye and expressing gratitude. This simple act of saying goodbye and expressing appreciation can have a significant impact on our relationships and our overall well-being.

 

Saying goodbye is an essential part of any relationship, whether it’s a professional or personal one. It allows us to acknowledge the end of a chapter and move forward with a sense of closure. When we say goodbye, we also have the opportunity to express our gratitude to the person we are parting ways with. This expression of gratitude can strengthen our relationships and leave a lasting positive impression.

 

Expressing gratitude is an essential component of positive psychology, which emphasizes the importance of focusing on what is good and positive in our lives. By expressing gratitude, we can shift our focus from negative to positive, promoting our mental health and well-being. Moreover, expressing gratitude can also inspire others to do the same, creating a ripple effect of positivity and kindness.

 

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Aging Mindfully

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In this episode of the SOS Podcast, hosts Megan Bartley and Rob Giltner celebrate Megan’s birthday while discussing the subjective nature of aging and the power of mindfulness in awakening new neural pathways. They also share personal updates and stories, including Megan’s favorite childhood birthday memory. Join them as they shift their sh!t and explore the complexities of life.

Navigate aging with a positive attitude.

Aging is a natural process that we all go through. However, it is often accompanied by fear and anxiety. As we age, we may start to worry about our physical appearance, our health, and our ability to keep up with the fast-paced world around us. But embracing aging with a positive attitude can help us navigate this process with grace and ease.

 

One of the keys to embracing aging is to focus on the positive aspects of getting older. As we age, we gain wisdom and experience that can help us navigate life’s challenges with greater ease. We also have the opportunity to cultivate deeper relationships with those around us, as we have more time and experience to invest in our connections with others.

 

Another important aspect of embracing aging is to take care of our physical and mental health. This means eating a healthy diet, getting regular exercise, and staying mentally engaged through activities like reading, learning new skills, and socializing with others. By taking care of our bodies and minds, we can ensure that we stay healthy and vibrant well into our later years.

 

It is also important to cultivate a positive attitude towards aging. Instead of seeing it as a negative process, we can view it as an opportunity for growth and transformation. By embracing the changes that come with aging, we can learn to appreciate the beauty of life at every stage.

 

In conclusion, embracing aging with a positive attitude is essential for living a happy and fulfilling life. By focusing on the positive aspects of aging, taking care of our physical and mental health, and cultivating a positive attitude, we can navigate the aging process with grace and ease. So let’s embrace aging and all that it has to offer!

 

“Reevaluate priorities in 40s.”

As we age, our priorities and perspectives on life change. In our 40s, we often experience a reevaluation of our priorities and what truly matters in life. This is commonly referred to as the “fuck it 40s” because we become less concerned with things that used to bother us and more focused on what brings us joy and fulfillment.

 

In the SOS podcast, Megan discusses her experience with the “fuck it 40s” and how it has changed her perspective on life. She talks about the realization that material possessions do not hold as much importance as they once did and the importance of focusing on relationships and experiences.

 

Megan also discusses the challenges of being in the “sandwich generation,” where individuals are taking care of their own children while also caring for aging parents. This can be a difficult time, but it also provides an opportunity for reevaluation and reassessment of priorities.

 

One of the key takeaways from this episode is the importance of embracing aging with a positive attitude. Megan discusses her own optimistic outlook on life and the importance of celebrating the fact that she was born. By focusing on the positive aspects of aging, taking care of our physical and mental health, and cultivating a positive attitude, we can navigate the aging process with grace and ease.

 

In conclusion, the “fuck it 40s” provides an opportunity for reevaluation and reassessment of priorities. By focusing on relationships and experiences, taking care of our physical and mental health, and embracing aging with a positive attitude, we can live a happy and fulfilling life. So let’s embrace aging and all that it has to offer!

 

Celebrate all aspects of life.

Megan and Rob’s conversation touches on the topic of celebrating all aspects of life, not just on special occasions like birthdays. They discuss how they have been approaching their own birthdays as they enter their 40s. They reflect on how they have shifted their focus from material gifts to experiences and relationships. They also mention how they have been taking better care of their physical and mental health.

 

The conversation highlights the importance of celebrating all aspects of life, not just the milestones. Megan and Rob talk about how they have been celebrating their accomplishments in work and personal life. They mention how they have been reflecting on their past achievements and optimizing them for the future. They also discuss the importance of taking breaks and traveling as a way to recharge and celebrate life.

 

Their conversation also touches on the topic of aging and how it can be embraced with a positive attitude. Megan and Rob talk about how they have been reevaluating their priorities and focusing on what truly matters in life. They mention how they have been embracing aging as a natural part of life and not something to be feared or avoided.

 

Approach aging with mindfulness.

How can we approach aging with mindfulness? Megan shares her positive attitude towards aging and how she sees it as an opportunity to gain more experience and wisdom. She also mentions how some people tend to fight against aging, which can lead to negative feelings and judgments toward themselves.

 

The concept of mindfulness is introduced as a way to embrace aging. Mindfulness is defined as a nonjudgmental observation of thoughts, feelings, and experiences. By practicing mindfulness, we can become more aware of our thoughts and emotions and learn to accept them without judgment.

 

Megan also talks about the importance of taking care of physical and mental health as we age. This includes getting enough rest, staying active, and seeking support when needed. By prioritizing our health, we can improve our overall well-being and enjoy life to the fullest.

 

Megan and Rob also touch on the idea of letting go of societal expectations and embracing our unique journey. They mention how some people may feel pressure to look a certain way or achieve certain milestones by a certain age. However, by letting go of these expectations, we can focus on our own journey and celebrate our accomplishments, no matter how big or small.

 

Accept and nurture aging gracefully.

Let’s ditch the negative connotations of aging. We can accept and nurture aging gracefully. We can look back on our lives and only focus on what we haven’t achieved can be painful. However, by accepting and nurturing ourselves, we can have a healthy relationship with aging. Mindfulness can play a vital role in this process as it helps us live in the present moment and appreciate what we have.

 

Megan and Rob talk about societal expectations regarding aging, such as the pressure to look youthful. They discuss how people often do things to enhance their appearance, such as coloring their hair or wearing fake eyelashes. While there is nothing wrong with these practices, it is essential to ask ourselves why we are doing them. Are we doing it for ourselves or because we feel pressure from society? By understanding our motivations, we can make more informed decisions about how we want to age.

 

We also need to take care of our health as we age. By eating well, exercising regularly, and getting enough sleep, we can improve our physical and mental well-being. These habits can also help us feel more confident and comfortable in our bodies as we age.

 

Change your perception of aging.

One key takeaway from this episode is the idea of changing our perception of aging. The speakers discuss how our beliefs about what it means to be “old” can limit our potential and affect our health. By challenging these beliefs and adopting a more positive outlook, we can live longer and healthier lives.

 

  1. One way to change our perception of aging is to focus on mindfulness and self-care. Megan and Rob emphasize the importance of taking care of our bodies and minds, whether through exercise, meditation, or other practices. By staying present in the moment and nurturing ourselves, we can reduce stress and improve our overall well-being.

 

  1. Another important aspect of changing our perception of aging is letting go of societal expectations. Megan and Rob point out how our culture often associates aging with decline and loss, but this does not have to be the case. By embracing new experiences and relationships, we can continue to grow and thrive as we age.

 

Ultimately, remember that aging is a natural and inevitable part of life, but it does not have to be a negative one. By changing our perception of aging and embracing all that life has to offer, we can live a happy and fulfilling life at any age.

 

Seek out new experiences.

One way to embrace aging and continue to grow is to seek out new experiences. You can:

  • learning something new
  • taking up a new hobby 
  • travel to new places 

These are exciting ways to build new neural pathways and keep our minds active and engaged. By doing so, we can avoid falling into the trap of autopilot and routine, which can lead to feelings of boredom, stagnation, and even depression.

 

By becoming more conscious of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, we can start to see things from different angles and awaken our autopilot. This can help us become more aware of the opportunities and possibilities that exist around us, and allow us to make more intentional choices about how we want to live our lives.

 

Of course, embracing new experiences can be scary and uncomfortable at times. It can be tempting to stick with what we know and what feels safe, rather than taking risks and trying new things. However, the rewards of stepping outside our comfort zones can be immense. By challenging ourselves and pushing our boundaries, we can discover new strengths, talents, and passions that we never knew we had.

 

Embrace your true self fully.

This means accepting all aspects of yourself, even the ones that others may not understand or appreciate. It’s about being true to who you are and not trying to conform to societal expectations or the expectations of others.

 

Megan talks about how she has always focused on being Megan and not just a wife, mother, or any other label that society may try to place on her. She acknowledges that there are parts of her that may be seen as introverted or not as outgoing as others, but she embraces these aspects of herself and doesn’t try to change them to fit in with others.

 

This is an important message for all of us to hear. We often try to fit into certain boxes or labels, whether it’s at work, in our personal lives, or in society as a whole. We may feel pressure to conform to certain expectations or to be someone we’re not in order to fit in.

 

But the truth is, when we try to be someone we’re not, we’re not being true to ourselves. We’re not living authentically, and we’re not living our best lives. When we embrace our true selves fully, we can live more fulfilling lives and be happier and more content.

 

This doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t strive to improve ourselves or try new things. In fact, the podcast encourages us to embrace new experiences for growth, no matter our age. By doing so, we can continue to learn, grow, thrive, and make the most of the time we have on this earth.

 

In conclusion, embracing your true self fully is essential for living a fulfilling and authentic life. It means accepting all aspects of yourself and not trying to conform to societal expectations or the expectations of others. So let’s embrace who we are and live life to the fullest, no matter our age or circumstances.

 

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Shrinking

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In this episode of the SOS Podcast, hosts Megan and Rob discuss the TV show “Shrinking,” which follows therapists as they navigate their own personal traumas and questionable boundaries with clients. Megan finds the show cringe-worthy but also humorous, while Rob is energized and motivated by the show’s portrayal of therapists working through their own issues. Overall, the hosts have an engaging conversation about the complexities of therapy and the importance of setting healthy boundaries.

What not to do as a therapist.

Therapists must be extremely careful not to tell their clients what to do. This is a boundary that must be respected in order to maintain the therapeutic relationship and ensure the client is receiving the best care possible. Unfortunately, this boundary is often crossed in the popular TV show Shrinking, where the main characters are therapists who sometimes tell their clients what to do, rather than allowing them to form their own conclusions and make their own decisions.

It is important to remember that the therapist is there to provide support and guidance, not to dictate how the client could live their life. A therapist could never use their power or authority to pressure a client into a certain decision or action. Instead, they could listen to the client and help them to explore their options and find the best solution for them. The client could be the one who ultimately makes the decisions about their life and how they want to move forward.

In Shrinking, the main characters often cross this boundary and tell their clients what to do, which can be damaging to the therapeutic relationship. This is especially true when the therapist is trying to help the client leave a toxic relationship or situation. In this case, the therapist could be careful to allow the client to make the decision for themselves and not pressure them into a certain action.

In addition to respecting the client’s autonomy, therapists could also be aware of the potential for dual relationships to form. This is when a therapist and client become involved in a relationship outside of the therapeutic setting, such as a friendship or romantic relationship. This can be dangerous as it can blur the boundaries of the therapeutic relationship and can lead to a conflict of interest.

In conclusion, it is important for therapists to remember not to tell their clients what to do and to respect their autonomy. They could also be aware of the potential for dual relationships to form and take steps to avoid them. By following these guidelines, therapists can ensure that their clients receive the best care possible and that the therapeutic relationship is maintained.

 

Set healthy boundaries in therapy.

Therapy is a powerful tool that can help people work through difficult issues and gain insight into their lives. However, it is important to remember that it is a professional relationship and that it is important to set healthy boundaries. This is especially true when it comes to telling clients what to do.

Therapists could not be telling their clients what to do or what decisions to make. It is important to remember that the client is in control of their own life and they could be allowed to make their own decisions. Instead, therapists could focus on providing their clients with the information they need to make informed decisions. They could also be aware of the potential for dual relationships to form and take steps to avoid them.

Therapists could also be mindful of the potential for their clients to become too attached to them. While it is natural for clients to become attached to their therapist, it is important to remember that the relationship is professional and could remain that way. Therapists could be aware of the signs of an unhealthy attachment and take steps to ensure that the client does not become too attached.

Finally, it is important to remember that the therapeutic relationship is based on trust. Therapists could strive to maintain this trust by being honest and open with their clients. They could also be aware of their own emotions and take steps to ensure that they are not projecting their own feelings onto their clients.

Setting healthy boundaries in therapy is essential to ensure that the therapeutic relationship remains professional and that the client receives the best care possible. Therapists could be aware of the potential for dual relationships to form and take steps to avoid them. They could also be mindful of the potential for their clients to become too attached to them and strive to maintain the trust between them. By following these guidelines, therapists can ensure that their clients receive the best care possible and that the therapeutic relationship is maintained.

Maintain healthy boundaries.

Boundaries are the guidelines that therapists use to maintain a professional, therapeutic relationship. They are essential to ensure that the client is receiving the best possible care. Boundaries could be established early on in the therapeutic relationship and could be discussed with the client. These boundaries could include the topics that will be discussed in therapy, the amount of contact between sessions, and the expectations of the therapist.

Boundaries could also be established to prevent dual relationships from forming. Dual relationships can occur when a therapist and a client become too close or when the therapist begins to treat a client like a friend. This can be damaging to the client and can lead to a breakdown in the therapeutic relationship. To prevent this, therapists could make sure that they maintain a professional relationship with their clients and that they do not share personal information or engage in activities outside of the therapy session.

Therapists could also be aware of the potential for their clients to become too attached to them. This can be a difficult situation for both the client and the therapist, as it can lead to feelings of guilt or confusion. To prevent this, therapists could strive to maintain a trusting relationship with their clients. They could also be aware of their own boundaries and be prepared to set limits when needed.

In conclusion, setting healthy boundaries in therapy is essential to ensure that the therapeutic relationship remains professional and that the client receives the best care possible. Therapists could be aware of the potential for dual relationships to form and take steps to avoid them. They could also be mindful of the potential for their clients to become too attached to them and strive to maintain the trust between them. By following these guidelines, therapists can ensure that their clients receive the best care possible and that the therapeutic relationship is maintained.

Mindfulness aids mental health.

Mindfulness has become an increasingly popular tool for helping people to manage their mental health. Mindfulness is a form of meditation that focuses on being present at the moment and paying attention to one’s thoughts and feelings without judgment. It has been found to be effective in treating a variety of mental health issues, including anxiety, depression, and stress.

Mindfulness is beneficial for mental health in a number of ways:

  1. First, it helps people to become more aware of their thoughts and feelings. This increased awareness can help people to identify patterns in their thoughts and feelings that may be contributing to their mental health issues. For example, if someone is feeling anxious, they may be able to recognize that they are ruminating on negative thoughts and feelings. This awareness can help them to take steps to address the underlying issue.
  2. Second, mindfulness can help to reduce stress. When people are mindful, they are less likely to become overwhelmed by their thoughts and feelings. Instead, they can observe them without judgment and take steps to reduce their stress levels. This can be done through activities such as deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and guided imagery.
  3. Third, mindfulness can help to increase self-compassion. People who practice mindfulness are more likely to be kinder and more understanding of themselves. This can help them to be more accepting of their own mistakes and to be less critical of themselves. This can be especially beneficial for those who struggle with low self-esteem or perfectionism.
  4. Finally, mindfulness can help to improve the quality of relationships. People who practice mindfulness are better able to be present in their relationships and to be more understanding of their partner’s feelings. This can lead to more meaningful and fulfilling relationships.

Overall, mindfulness can be a powerful tool for improving mental health. It can help people to become more aware of their thoughts and feelings, reduce stress, increase self-compassion, and improve their relationships. For these reasons, mindfulness is an important tool for mental health professionals and those seeking to improve their mental health.

Ways to practice mindfulness.

  • One way to practice mindfulness is to focus on the present moment. This can be done by focusing on the breath, observing thoughts without judgment, and being mindful of one’s physical sensations. By focusing on the present moment, we can become more aware of our thoughts and feelings, which can help us to better understand ourselves and our reactions to certain situations. This can also help us to become more aware of how we interact with others and how our behavior impacts our relationships.
  • Mindfulness can also be used to expand our perspective on certain issues. This can be done by questioning our assumptions and looking at situations from different angles. By doing this, we can open ourselves up to new possibilities and gain a better understanding of the situation. This can help us to make more informed decisions and find solutions that we may have overlooked before.
  • Lastly, mindfulness can be used to cultivate self-compassion. This can be done by recognizing our own pain and suffering and offering ourselves kindness and understanding. By doing this, we can learn to accept ourselves and our flaws, rather than judging ourselves harshly. This can help us to become more resilient in the face of difficult emotions and better able to cope with challenging situations.

Overall, mindfulness can be a powerful tool for improving mental health. It can help us to become more aware of our thoughts and feelings, expand our perspective on certain issues, and cultivate self-compassion. By practicing mindfulness, we can gain a better understanding of ourselves and our relationships, and find ways to better cope with difficult emotions and challenging situations.

Expand your compassion.

Einstein famously said, “A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. We experience ourselves, our thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of our consciousness.” This quote speaks to the idea of expanding our compassion to include all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty. When we are so caught up in our own narrow view of ourselves and what is best for us, we can easily forget the interconnectedness of all things.

Mindfulness can help us to expand our compassion in a number of ways. Firstly, it can help us to become more aware of our own thoughts and feelings, which can lead to greater understanding and empathy for others. Mindfulness can also help us to become more aware of our own biases and prejudices, and to recognize and challenge them. Finally, mindfulness can help us to recognize the interconnectedness of all things and to cultivate compassion for all living creatures.

To cultivate greater compassion, we can practice mindfulness through conflict. This means recognizing and accepting our own emotions and those of others and using them as a tool to become more mindful. We can also use mindfulness to become more open and compassionate towards those with whom we may disagree. Finally, we can use mindfulness to create a safe space to explore different perspectives and to become more mindful of our own beliefs and values.

By expanding our compassion, we can create a more peaceful and compassionate world. Through mindfulness, we can become more aware of our own thoughts and feelings, recognize our biases and prejudices, and cultivate understanding and empathy for others. We can also use mindfulness to become more open and compassionate towards those with whom we may disagree and to create a safe space to explore different perspectives. By expanding our compassion, we can create a more peaceful and compassionate world.

Trust your instincts.

Trusting your instincts is an important concept to remember in life. We all have a natural intuition that can help guide us in the right direction. By trusting our instincts, we can make decisions that are in our best interest and that will lead us to a more positive outcome.

However, it is important to remember that our intuition could not be the only factor in making decisions. We could also consider our own code of ethics and morals, as well as the opinions of those around us. It is important to be mindful of our own biases and prejudices and to be open to different perspectives. We could also be aware of our own limitations and be willing to seek advice and help from others when necessary.

Trusting your instincts is an important concept in life, but it could be balanced with other considerations. By being mindful of our own biases and prejudices, and by being open to different perspectives, we can make decisions that are in our best interest and that will lead us to a more positive outcome.

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Can Men and Women Be Friends?

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In this episode (Episode 12, 2022) of the SOS podcast, Megan Bartley and Rob Giltner discuss the dynamics of the friendship of letting go of preconceived notions and allowing conversations to unfold naturally. They also reflect on their experience creating the podcast and how it’s been going so far. They both express their joy and excitement about continuing the podcast and the valuable conversations they are having. Although they may not know everything, they both find the podcast helpful for their own growth and hope that listeners will find it helpful too.

 

Allow yourself to be open.

When it comes to being open and allowing yourself to experience life, it can be a difficult task. We often get caught up in our own thoughts and beliefs, and it can be hard to step outside of our comfort zone and be open to new experiences. However, allowing yourself to be open can be a rewarding and transformative experience.

 

  1. The first step to being open is to be aware of your own thoughts and feelings. Take the time to explore your inner world and ask yourself questions such as, “What do I believe?”, “What do I want out of life?”, and “What do I need to feel fulfilled?” When you take the time to explore your own thoughts and beliefs, you can start to understand yourself better and gain insight into what you need to be open to.

 

  1. The next step is to practice being open to different experiences. This can include trying new activities, meeting new people, or even exploring new ideas. When you take the time to open yourself up to new experiences, you can learn more about the world around you and gain a better understanding of different perspectives. This can lead to more meaningful connections and help you to become more open-minded.

 

  1. Lastly, it is important to practice self-compassion. When you are open to new experiences, it can be difficult to accept yourself and your feelings. It is important to be gentle with yourself and to recognize that it is okay to make mistakes and to feel uncomfortable. When you practice self-compassion, you can be more open to the world around you and to yourself.

 

Being open can be a difficult task, but it can be a rewarding and transformative experience. When you take the time to explore your own thoughts and feelings, practice being open to new experiences, and practice self-compassion, you can start to open yourself up to the world around you and to yourself. Through this process, you can gain a better understanding of yourself and the world around you, and you can start to experience life in a more meaningful way.

 

No drama friends are best.

One of the best ways to practice being open is to make friends who are drama-free. Having friends who are drama-free can be incredibly beneficial because it allows you to have a safe space to explore your thoughts and feelings without the added stress of drama. These friends can be a great source of support and understanding and can help you to stay grounded and focused on your goals.

 

When it comes to making drama-free friends, it is important to remember that it is not always easy. It can take some time to find people who are drama-free, but it is worth the effort. It is important to remember that it is not always about finding people who are drama-free, but rather finding people who are supportive, understanding, and open-minded.

 

When you find friends who are drama-free, it is important to remember that it is not a one-way street. You must also be supportive, understanding, and open-minded. This means that you must be willing to listen to your friends and be there for them when they need it. You must also be willing to be honest and open about your own thoughts and feelings. This can be a difficult process, but it can also be incredibly rewarding.

 

Having friends who are drama-free can be a great way to experience life in a more meaningful way. These friends can provide a safe space for you to explore your thoughts and feelings without the added stress of drama. They can also provide support, understanding, and openness. So, if you are looking for a way to experience life in a more meaningful way, consider making friends who are drama-free.

 

Set boundaries and intentions.

When it comes to friendships, it is important to set boundaries and intentions. This can help ensure that everyone involved is comfortable and that the relationship is healthy. Boundaries help define the limits of the relationship, while intentions help to clarify the purpose of the friendship. Setting boundaries and intentions can also help to ensure that the friendship is drama-free.

 

When it comes to setting boundaries, it is important to be clear and direct. Being clear about what is and isn’t acceptable in the friendship can help to ensure that everyone is on the same page. It is also important to be aware of your own boundaries and to communicate them to your friends. This can help to avoid any misunderstandings or hurt feelings.

 

When it comes to setting intentions, it is important to be honest and open. This can help to ensure that your friendship is built on trust and understanding. Being honest and open about your intentions can also help to ensure that the relationship is drama-free.

 

Finally, it is important to remember that boundaries and intentions can change over time. As your friendship grows and evolves, it is important to reassess the boundaries and intentions of the relationship. This can help to ensure that the friendship remains drama-free and healthy.

 

Overall, setting boundaries and intentions can be a great way to ensure that your friendships are drama-free and healthy. By being clear and honest about your boundaries and intentions, you can ensure that everyone involved is comfortable and that the relationship is built on trust and understanding.

 

Understand sexual boundaries. 

When it comes to understanding sexual boundaries, it is essential to be aware of your own intentions and to be mindful of the other person’s boundaries. It is important to be aware of the power dynamics at play and to ensure that no one feels uncomfortable or manipulated. In a therapeutic setting, it is important to remember that the focus should always be on helping the client, not on any kind of sexual energy.

 

When it comes to friendships, it is important to be aware of the lines that can be crossed. For example, if you are sending pictures or texts that could be interpreted as having a sexual connotation, it is important to be mindful of the other person’s feelings and boundaries. It is also important to recognize that not everyone may feel the same way about these types of interactions.

 

In any type of relationship, it is important to be aware of the boundaries and to communicate openly and honestly about them. It is also important to be aware of the power dynamics and to ensure that no one is feeling manipulated or taken advantage of. By being mindful of these things, you can ensure that everyone involved is comfortable and that the relationship is built on trust and understanding.

 

Progressively affirming and open.

The Louisville Presbyterian Theological Seminary is an example of a progressive and open environment. It is a place where everyone is accepted and respected, regardless of gender, sexuality, or religion. The seminary encourages its students to engage in open dialogue and to explore their own perspectives on various topics. This open dialogue allows students to learn from one another and to gain a better understanding of different perspectives. 

 

The seminary also encourages its students to be aware of the power dynamics in any relationship, especially those between a therapist and a client. In this instance, it is important to be aware of the potential for a client to develop feelings for the therapist, and for the therapist to maintain an unconditional loving presence and to remain within the boundaries of their professional role. This helps to ensure that the client feels heard and understood, while also feeling safe and respected. 

 

The movie When Harry Met Sally is a great example of this kind of progressive and open dialogue. In the movie, the two main characters, Harry and Sally, start off as friends but eventually develop feelings for each other. Through their conversations, they are able to explore their own perspectives and gain a better understanding of each other. This dialogue serves as a reminder that even though there can be power dynamics in relationships, it is possible to maintain an open and affirming relationship.

 

In conclusion, it is important to be mindful of the power dynamics in any relationship and to ensure that everyone involved is comfortable and respected. The Louisville Presbyterian Theological Seminary is an example of a progressive and open environment, where open dialogue and understanding are encouraged. The movie When Harry Met Sally serves as a reminder that even though there can be power dynamics in relationships, it is possible to maintain an open and affirming relationship.

 

Boundaries are important for relationships.

Boundaries are important for relationships. In a healthy relationship, both parties should feel respected and safe. Boundaries help to ensure that everyone involved is comfortable and that their needs are being met. 

 

Boundaries are important for relationships for a variety of reasons. For example, boundaries can help protect against power dynamics in relationships. Power dynamics can be seen in relationships between people of different genders, sexual orientations, and social classes. When one person has more power than the other, it can lead to feelings of inequality and unfairness. Boundaries help to ensure that everyone involved in a relationship is respected and that their needs are considered.

 

Boundaries are also crucial for relationships because they help to maintain open and honest communication. Without boundaries, it can be difficult to talk about sensitive topics and feelings. Boundaries provide a safe space to talk about these topics without fear of judgment or criticism. 

 

The Louisville Presbyterian Theological Seminary is a great example of a progressive and open environment that encourages open dialogue and understanding. At the seminary, students are encouraged to talk openly about gender, sexuality, and other sensitive topics. In one class, a student conducted an exercise in which everyone wrote down their gender identity and what gender they would be interested in dating or having intimacy with. This exercise showed the students that sexuality is on a spectrum and that people can have an attraction to different genders. 

 

The movie When Harry Met Sally is another example of an open and affirming relationship. In the movie, Harry and Sally are able to maintain a platonic relationship while still being honest and open with each other. This is a reminder that even though there can be power dynamics in relationships, it is possible to maintain an open and affirming relationship. 

 

Overall, boundaries are important for relationships. Boundaries help to ensure that everyone involved in a relationship is respected and that their needs are considered. The Louisville Presbyterian Theological Seminary and the movie When Harry Met Sally are two examples of how boundaries can help create open and affirming relationships.

 

Teach kids about consent.

When it comes to teaching kids about consent, it is important to start early. Kids need to understand that their bodies and their feelings are their own and that they have the right to say “no” to anything that makes them feel uncomfortable. Teaching kids about consent goes beyond just saying “no means no.” It is important to talk to kids about what consent is and why it is important.

 

When talking to kids about consent, it is important to emphasize that consent is not just about physical contact. It is also about verbal and emotional boundaries. Kids need to understand that they have the right to set boundaries and that it is okay to say “no” even if someone is pressuring them to do something they don’t want to do. It is also important to talk to kids about how they can tell if someone is not respecting their boundaries.

 

It is also important to talk to kids about respecting the boundaries of others. Kids need to understand that just because someone says “yes” to something, it does not mean that they are obligated to do it. They need to understand that if someone says “no” then it is important to respect that decision.

 

It is also important to talk to kids about the concept of “alpha culture.” Alpha culture is a term used to describe a certain type of masculinity that is often associated with aggressive behavior and an attitude of entitlement. It is important to talk to kids about how this type of culture is damaging and how it can lead to unhealthy relationships.

 

Teaching kids about consent is an important part of raising healthy and respectful children. By talking to kids about boundaries, respect, and consent, we can help them to create relationships that are open, affirming, and respectful.

 

Explore different perspectives.

As parents, it is important to explore different perspectives when it comes to talking to kids about sex and consent. It is important to understand the different ways that people may view sex, consent, and relationships. Different cultures, religious backgrounds, and personal experiences can all shape our perspectives on these topics.

    

It is important to create an open dialogue with kids when it comes to talking about sex and consent. This can be done by using language that is respectful and non-judgmental. Asking questions and listening to the answers can help to create a safe and trusting environment. It is also important to use language that is age appropriate and that is not too complicated for young children.

    

It is also important to create an environment in which kids feel comfortable asking questions and expressing their feelings. This can be done by using positive affirmations and by avoiding shaming language. It is also important to recognize that kids may have different views and opinions on these topics and to allow them to express those views without judgment.

 

Exploring different perspectives can also help to create an environment in which kids feel empowered to make their own decisions. By giving kids the tools to make informed decisions, they can learn to respect themselves and others. Exploring different perspectives can also help to create a more inclusive and understanding environment.

 

In conclusion, exploring different perspectives when it comes to talking to kids about sex and consent is essential in raising healthy and respectful children. By creating an open dialogue and using positive affirmations, we can help kids to make informed decisions and to create relationships that are open, affirming, and respectful.

 

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