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A Love Letter

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A Love Letter

by Keith Williams

 

As I write this today, I am celebrating 30 years of marriage.
I must admit that I don’t write many love letters these days, but I intend for this to be one.
Every day, in my office, I get to do what I love in working with couples.  My education, training, mentors, and thousands of hours of experience have helped shape my approach and values in the work that I do.  I am often aware of these influences as I am working.  They appear when I need them.  While they are substantial, they pale in comparison to my greatest teacher, my wife.
My wife first encouraged me to become a therapist.  She sacrificed, endured, and supported me on the road to becoming one.  She teaches me love, in all of it’s countless ways.  When I sit before a couple who is struggling, I am able to access a lifetime of experiences from her resolute care.  I loan the strength and confidence to couples that she has so freely given me.
To my wife, I thank you fulfilling all of my dreams.  Thank you for making me into a man.  Thank you for being indestructible.  Thank you for letting me aggravate you, constantly.
I love you.
couples therapy, couples counselingKeith Williams, LMFT is a lifelong Louisvillian. He received his master’s degree from Louisville Seminary and was classmates with fellow Mindfulness Center therapists Megan Bayles Bartley and Elizabeth McCormack over twenty years ago.
He loves absurd humor, pulling weeds in his garden, and travel.
Keith’s clients would describe him as creative, resolute, and playful. 
Keith offers FREE 10-minute consultations to see if working together is a good fit. You can schedule your free consult online HERE!

How To Change Your Memories

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What are Maladaptively Stored Memories?

Our memories shape who we are, but sometimes, they can hold us back. Maladaptively stored memories are distressing experiences that haven’t been properly processed by the brain. They can be intrusive, causing flashbacks, nightmares, and intense emotions. They can be painful events from childhood when our brain wasn’t fully developed and the adults around us tried to “protect” us from what was happening. These memories need to be fully processed with a fully developed brain.

 

How Do They Affect Us?

Maladaptive memories can wreak havoc on our mental well-being. They can lead to:

  • Anxiety

  • Depression

  • Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

  • Unhealthy coping mechanisms

 

How Can Mindfulness Help?

Mindfulness practices can help us approach maladaptive memories with greater awareness and compassion. By learning to observe our thoughts and feelings without judgment, we can begin to detach from the emotional grip of the past.

Here are some mindfulness techniques that can help:

  • Meditation: Meditation can help us become more aware of our thoughts and feelings, and to let go of unhelpful attachments.

  • Journaling: Writing down our thoughts and feelings about a maladaptive memory can help us to process it and gain new insights.

  • Body awareness: Paying attention to our physical sensations can help us to identify and release tension associated with a maladaptive memory.

 

EMDR And Seeking Help

If you are struggling with maladaptive memories, you don’t have to go it alone. Our therapists can teach you coping mechanisms and help you process your experiences in a safe and supportive environment.

EMDR is a therapeutic technique specifically designed to help with reprocessing. Without having to fully re-experience the event. We can process current sensations and feelings that remind us of that previous event. We can then learn skills to address negative cognitions and triggering feelings to respond differently or have no response at all. Your memories don’t have to hold you back or make you feel powerless to your emotions. Reach out if you are wanting to feel more control and enjoyment in your life.

If you are interested in learning more please contact Elizabeth McCormack, LMFT for a 10 minute consultation to see if EMDR would be your next step to emotional freedom.

Mindfulness is a journey, not a destination. By developing a greater awareness of our thoughts and feelings, we can begin to heal from the past and create a brighter future.

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Elizabeth McCormack, LMFT is our therapist at The Mindfulness Center offering EMDR. Feel free to schedule a FREE 10-minute consultation with her to see if working together is optimal for both of you. Or, if you’re ready to schedule your first therapy session, you can schedule with Elizabeth HERE!

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RESET: Set Yourself Up for Success

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Embrace vulnerability to find strength

 

In today’s fast-paced and competitive world, vulnerability is often seen as a weakness. We are taught to be strong, independent, and invulnerable in order to succeed. However, Megan argues that embracing vulnerability can actually lead to greater strength and resilience.

 

She begins by defining vulnerability as the willingness to show our true selves, to be open and honest about our thoughts, feelings, and experiences. It is about being authentic and allowing ourselves to be seen, flaws and all. She explains that vulnerability is not a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of courage and strength.

 

One of the key points is that vulnerability allows us to connect with others on a deeper level. When we are open and honest about our struggles and insecurities, we allow others to do the same. This creates a sense of empathy and understanding, and can lead to stronger, more meaningful relationships. By being vulnerable, we can build trust and create a support system that can help us through difficult times.

 

Megan also discusses how vulnerability can lead to personal growth and self-discovery. When we are willing to confront our fears and insecurities, we can learn more about ourselves and what truly matters to us. By facing our vulnerabilities head-on, we can develop resilience and inner strength that can help us navigate life’s challenges with grace and courage.

 

Affirmations shape our subconscious beliefs.

Megan Bayles Bartley discusses the power of affirmations in shaping our subconscious beliefs. Affirmations are positive statements that we repeat to ourselves in order to reprogram our thoughts and beliefs. Megan explains that our subconscious mind believes whatever we tell it, so by consistently feeding it positive affirmations, we can change our mindset and outlook on life.

 

She highlights the importance of talking to ourselves in the affirmative, using present-tense statements as if our goals have already been achieved. This technique is rooted in the idea that in the realm of quantum physics, time and space are fluid, and by aligning our thoughts with our desired outcomes, we can manifest them into reality.

 

She shares personal examples of affirmations that have worked for her, such as “I love and accept myself” and “life is fun and easy.” She encourages listeners to find affirmations that resonate with them and to incorporate them into their daily routines. Whether it’s writing them on sticky notes, setting reminders on their phones, or journaling before bed, the key is to consistently reinforce these positive beliefs. Megan also touches on the idea of vulnerability and self-acceptance. By embracing our flaws and imperfections, we can cultivate a sense of self-love and acceptance that serves as the foundation for personal growth and success. Affirmations, in this context, serve as a tool for building self-confidence and resilience in the face of challenges.

 

Check out this episode of the Shifting Our Shit (SOS) Podcast HERE!

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RESET: Gratitude Rewires the Brain

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Embrace change with an open mind

 

Change is an inevitable part of life. Whether we like it or not, change is constantly happening around us. It can be daunting and scary, but it is important to embrace change with an open mind. Megan discusses the importance of being open to change and how it can lead to personal growth and success.

 

She began by highlighting the fact that change is a natural part of life. From small changes like trying a new restaurant to major life changes like starting a new job or moving to a new city, change is constantly happening. Megan emphasized that instead of resisting change, it is important to embrace it and see it as an opportunity for growth.

 

One of the key points made was that embracing change with an open mind allows us to learn and grow. When we are open to change, we are more willing to step out of our comfort zones and try new things. This can lead to new experiences, new perspectives, and new opportunities. By being open to change, we can expand our horizons and discover new passions and interests.

 

Megan also discusses how embracing change can lead to personal growth and success. When we are open to change, we are more adaptable and resilient. We are better equipped to handle challenges and setbacks, and we are more likely to bounce back from adversity. Embracing change with an open mind can also lead to new opportunities and experiences that can help us reach our goals and achieve success.

 

Embrace gratitude for a positive shift.

 

Gratitude is highlighted as a powerful tool for shifting our mindset from negative to positive. Megan discusses how gratitude practices can help us focus on what we are thankful for rather than what we lack. By shifting our focus to gratitude, we can open ourselves up to more possibilities and opportunities in life. Gratitude allows us to see the good in our lives, even in the midst of challenges or difficulties.

 

She also touched on the importance of validating our emotions and allowing ourselves to mourn and process difficult situations. It is okay to feel sadness or disappointment, but when we are ready to move beyond those emotions, we can look for things to be grateful for in the midst of hardship. Gratitude can be as simple as appreciating the air we breathe or the roof over our heads.

 

Megan encourages listeners to create ongoing lists of things they are grateful for, both in the past and in the upcoming year. By focusing on the things we are thankful for, we can cultivate a sense of appreciation and positivity in our lives. Gratitude can also extend to recognizing the qualities and support of others in our lives, as well as acknowledging our own strengths and abilities.

 

LISTEN to this episode of the Shifting Our Shit (SOS) Podcast HERE!

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RESET: Letting Go of What No Longer Works

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Stay curious and keep learning

“Stay curious and keep learning.” These simple yet powerful words serve as a reminder of the importance of lifelong learning and curiosity in our personal and professional lives. In a world that is constantly evolving and changing, it is essential to embrace a mindset of curiosity and a commitment to continuous learning in order to stay relevant and adapt to new challenges.

 

Megan emphasizes the idea that curiosity is the key to unlocking new opportunities and expanding our knowledge and understanding of the world around us. By staying curious, we are able to ask questions, seek out new information, and explore different perspectives, which can lead to personal growth and development. Curiosity is what drives innovation and creativity, as it inspires us to think outside the box and challenge the status quo.

 

She also highlights the importance of keeping an open mind and being willing to learn from others. No one person has all the answers, and by engaging with diverse perspectives and experiences, we can broaden our own understanding and gain new insights. Learning from others allows us to expand our horizons, challenge our assumptions, and foster a sense of empathy and understanding towards those who may have different viewpoints.

 

Megan emphasizes the idea that learning is a lifelong journey that never truly ends. In a rapidly changing world, it is important to continuously update our skills and knowledge in order to stay competitive and adaptable. By investing in our own learning and development, we can position ourselves for success and growth in our personal and professional lives.

 

Release what no longer serves

Megan Bayles Bartley guides listeners through a powerful exercise to let go of should statements that no longer serve them. The exercise involves visualizing a shape, color, texture, temperature, and weight of the should statement, and then transforming it into a new object that better aligns with their current beliefs and values.

 

The concept of releasing what no longer serves is a key aspect of personal growth and self-improvement. It involves letting go of limiting beliefs, negative thought patterns, and behaviors that hold us back from reaching our full potential. By releasing these obstacles, we create space for new opportunities, growth, and positive change in our lives.

 

The guided visualization exercise offered in the podcast episode is a powerful tool for releasing what no longer serves. By visualizing the should statement as a tangible object and then transforming it into something new, listeners can shift their mindset and let go of outdated beliefs and expectations.

 

Ultimately, the message of the podcast episode is one of empowerment and liberation. By releasing what no longer serves us, we can create space for growth, transformation, and fulfillment in our lives. It is a reminder that we have the power to choose our beliefs, thoughts, and actions, and to let go of anything that no longer aligns with our true selves.

 

LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE OF THE SHIFTING OUR SH!T (SOS) PODCAST HERE!

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RESET: Embracing Growth Through Present Discomfort

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Embrace growth through discomfort.

“Embrace growth through discomfort” is a powerful concept that challenges us to step out of our comfort zones in order to achieve personal and professional growth. Megan discussed the importance of embracing discomfort as a means of pushing ourselves to new heights and reaching our full potential.

 

She explained that growth often comes from pushing ourselves beyond what we think we are capable of, and that this can only be achieved through discomfort. When we are comfortable, we are stagnant. We are not challenging ourselves or pushing ourselves to grow. It is only when we step outside of our comfort zones and embrace discomfort that we are able to truly grow and evolve as individuals.

 

Megan shared personal stories of times when they had to embrace discomfort in order to achieve her goals. She talked about the fear and uncertainty she felt, but also the sense of accomplishment and growth that came from pushing through those feelings. It was a reminder that growth is not always easy, but it is always worth it.

 

She also discussed the importance of seeking out discomfort in our daily lives. Whether it is trying something new, taking on a challenging project, or having difficult conversations, embracing discomfort is essential for personal growth. It is through these experiences that we learn more about ourselves, our capabilities, and our potential.

 

Shift “SHOULDS” to more empowering “COULDS”

Megan Bayless-Bartley discusses the importance of shifting to an empowering could in order to foster personal growth and self-empowerment. She emphasizes the negative impact of shoulds, which are limiting beliefs that often lead to feelings of guilt, judgment, and self-criticism. By replacing should with could, individuals can open themselves up to a wider range of options and possibilities, ultimately leading to a more positive and empowering mindset.

 

The concept of shifting shoulds to empowering coulds is a powerful tool for personal growth and self-empowerment. Shoulds are often rooted in external expectations, societal norms, and past conditioning, which can limit our ability to make choices that align with our true desires and values. When we constantly tell ourselves what we should be doing, we create a sense of obligation and pressure that can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.

 

Megan Bayles Bartley suggests that by embracing coulds, individuals can break free from the constraints of “shoulds” (shoulding all over ourselves) and embrace a more balanced and fulfilling life. By acknowledging where “shoulds” may have originated from, whether it be societal expectations, family influences, or personal beliefs, individuals can begin to challenge and reframe these limiting beliefs. This process of self-reflection and self-awareness allows individuals to take ownership of their choices and actions, and to cultivate a sense of agency and empowerment in their lives.

Listen to Season 4, Episode 5 of the Shifting Our Shit Podcast HERE!

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Actions Speak Louder than Words

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Action Speaks Louder than Words: The Power of Intentions

In a world where words are often used to deceive, manipulate, or simply lack sincerity, the proverb “Action speaks louder than words” holds immense significance. This timeless adage emphasizes the importance of actions as a true reflection of one’s intentions and character. We will explore the profound impact of actions and how they can often surpass the power of words.

Actions Manifest True Intentions:

While words can be easily manipulated or insincere, actions have an inherent authenticity that cannot be easily dismissed. Actions are concrete manifestations of one’s beliefs, values, and intentions. They have the power to reveal the true character of an individual, as they require effort, commitment, and consistency. For example, a person who claims to be environmentally conscious but fails to recycle or reduce their carbon footprint demonstrates a lack of genuine commitment to their stated values. In contrast, someone who actively engages in sustainable practices and consistently supports environmental causes through their actions demonstrates a true dedication to their beliefs.

Actions Inspire Trust and Confidence:

Actions have the power to build trust and confidence in relationships, whether personal or professional. When individuals consistently follow through on their promises and commitments, their actions validate their words. This alignment between words and actions fosters trust and reliability, enabling healthy and meaningful connections. Conversely, when words and actions do not align, doubt and skepticism can arise, eroding trust and straining relationships. For instance, a leader who consistently makes grand promises but fails to deliver on them will eventually lose the trust and confidence of their team. In contrast, a leader who takes tangible steps to fulfill their commitments will inspire loyalty and motivate others to follow their lead.

Actions Drive Change and Impact:

While words have the potential to inspire, actions are the driving force behind meaningful change and impact. History is replete with examples of individuals whose actions have shaped the world. Mahatma Gandhi’s nonviolent resistance movements, for instance, demonstrated the power of peaceful protest and inspired a nation to fight for independence. Similarly, the actions of civil rights activists like Martin Luther King Jr. transformed society by challenging racial inequality and discrimination. These influential figures understood that their actions would speak louder than any words they could utter, and their legacies continue to inspire generations.

Actions Overcome Communication Barriers:

In a diverse and globalized world, language barriers and cultural differences often hinder effective communication. Actions can transcend these barriers and convey messages that words alone cannot. A simple act of kindness, a helping hand extended to a stranger, or a charitable donation can communicate compassion, empathy, and goodwill without the need for verbal communication. Such actions create a universal language that unites people from different backgrounds, fostering understanding and connection.

Resetting for success and mindfulness.

One area where this alignment between words and actions is particularly important is in the pursuit of success and mindfulness. In today’s fast-paced world, it is easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life, constantly striving for success without taking the time to pause, reflect, and reset. True success cannot be achieved without a mindful approach that considers not only the end goal but also the journey and the well-being of oneself and others.

One key aspect of resetting for success and mindfulness is the practice of practical mindfulness. This involves being present in the moment, being aware of one’s thoughts and actions, and intentionally slowing down to assess the situation before diving in. Megan acknowledges her own tendency to jump into things without reading instructions, leading to mistakes and inefficiency. By practicing practical mindfulness, she has learned to be more methodical and intentional in her approach, resulting in better outcomes and a gentler attitude towards herself and others.

She also highlights the significance of doing and being. Megan describes herself as a doer, someone who takes action and gets things done. She recognizes the value of being present, of just being in the moment without constantly striving to do more. This balance between doing and being is crucial for success and mindfulness. By taking the time to just be, to pause and reflect, individuals can gain a fresh perspective, see things with beginner’s eyes, and open themselves up to new possibilities and ways of thinking.

The concept of resetting for success and mindfulness is not about following rigid step-by-step guides or adhering to strict rules. Instead, it is about embracing flexibility, curiosity, and the rainbow of options. Megan encourages listeners to think differently, to challenge black and white thinking, and to explore new ways of approaching tasks and routines. By making small changes, such as sitting in a different spot at the table or taking a different route to work, individuals can cultivate a more malleable mindset and create momentum for positive change.

Megan emphasizes the importance of choice and the ability to change one’s mind. Success and mindfulness require individuals to honor themselves, to give themselves the space and time to reset. This may involve pausing, reflecting, and checking in with oneself. It may also involve acknowledging and expressing gratitude for the things one is grateful for in life. By focusing on what is going well and what one is grateful for, individuals can shift their perspective and approach to life, setting themselves up for success and a more mindful existence.

Listen to this Shifting Our Shit (SOS) Podcast episode HERE!

Practical Mindfulness for Everyday Life!

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Mindfulness is empowering and freeing.

Mindfulness is a practice that empowers individuals and sets them free from the burdens of stress, anxiety, and negative thought patterns. It allows individuals to awaken from the autopilot mode and become conscious of their thoughts, feelings, and actions in the present moment. By being aware of the present moment, individuals can choose how they want to think, feel, and act, leading to a sense of control and empowerment.

 

One of the key aspects of mindfulness is letting go of things that are beyond our control and not attaching unnecessary meaning to situations. This helps individuals to release the burden of trying to control everything and allows them to focus their energy on things that truly matter. By practicing mindfulness, individuals can experience a sense of calmness and peace in all areas of their lives.

 

Mindfulness is often associated with meditation, but it is important to note that mindfulness is the first and most basic step in meditation and other stillness practices. It is about becoming more aware of the present moment, cultivating a nonjudgmental mindset, and creating space for stillness. The approach to mindfulness could be practical, down-to-earth, and accessible to all individuals, even those who think they could never do it. Mindfulness can be integrated into everyday tasks such as driving, doing chores, and eating meals, making it a part of one’s daily life.

 

It is common for individuals to worry about their ability to sit still or quiet their mind during meditation or stillness practices. However, it is important to understand that the mind’s natural tendency is to wander. When the mind wanders, it is not a sign of failure or inadequacy, but rather an opportunity to practice mindfulness. By gently bringing the mind back to the intended focus without judgment, individuals can cultivate a curious and compassionate mindset towards themselves and their thoughts.

 

Practicing mindfulness allows individuals to be more compassionate with themselves and others. It encourages them to let go of self-criticism and high expectations, and instead embrace self-compassion and acceptance. This shift in mindset can lead to a sense of freedom from the constant need to prove oneself and a greater sense of self-worth.

 

Mindfulness is a practice that empowers individuals by allowing them to awaken from autopilot mode, be present in the moment, and choose how they want to think, feel, and act. It is a practice that sets individuals free from stress, anxiety, and negative thought patterns, and cultivates a sense of calmness, peace, and empowerment. By integrating mindfulness into daily life and practicing self-compassion, individuals can experience the freedom and empowerment that mindfulness brings.

 

Listen to Season 4, Episode 1 of the Shifting Our Shit (S.O.S.) Podcast HERE!

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Stay Curious!

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Curiosity fosters understanding and connection.

Curiosity fosters understanding and connection. Elizabeth McCormack and Meganl, delve into the importance of curiosity in relationships and how it can lead to a deeper understanding of others.

Curiosity is a mindset that allows individuals to approach situations with a neutral to positive mindset. It is a place of open-mindedness and wonder, where one is not trying to control or change the thoughts of others. Instead, curiosity encourages individuals to seek understanding and learn from different perspectives.

Megan emphasizes that curiosity can be particularly beneficial in situations of miscommunication or conflict. By approaching these situations with curiosity, individuals can avoid reactive responses and instead respond in a more helpful manner. They can acknowledge the emotions or thoughts of the other person without feeling the need to change them. This creates a space for open dialogue and fosters a sense of connection.

Curiosity is present during the holiday season, a time when family gatherings and social events can bring about uncomfortable conversations or disagreements. Megan and Elizabeth encourage listeners to approach these situations with curiosity, rather than trying to change or convince others of their own opinions. By listening and being open to different perspectives, individuals can maintain a sense of connection and avoid unnecessary conflicts.

She also discusses the importance of boundaries in fostering curiosity. She explains that setting boundaries allows individuals to protect their time and energy. If someone does not feel emotionally secure in a relationship, they can limit their time and energy spent with that person. By setting boundaries, individuals can create a safe space for curiosity to thrive and promote understanding and connection.

Curiosity fosters understanding and connection by allowing individuals to approach situations with an open mind and a desire to learn from others. It encourages active listening and creates a safe space for dialogue, even in situations of disagreement. By setting boundaries, individuals can protect their emotional well-being and create an environment where curiosity can flourish. Ultimately, curiosity is a powerful tool that can lead to deeper connections and a greater understanding of others.

Setting boundaries is self-care.

Setting boundaries is an essential aspect of self-care. We know the importance of establishing limits in relationships to protect one’s emotional well-being and maintain a sense of comfort and safety.

Megan and Elizabeth discuss the concept of emotional trust, which involves trusting others to regulate their emotions in a way that is predictable and comfortable for us. When we trust someone emotionally, we know what to expect from them, and this predictability creates a sense of safety. On the other hand, if someone has a history of unpredictable emotional behavior, it becomes more challenging to trust them, and we may need to be more cautious and expend more energy in our interactions with them.

It is crucial to recognize that setting boundaries is our responsibility, not the responsibility of others. Boundaries are not meant to manage or control the behavior of others but to protect our own well-being. It is up to us to follow through with the boundaries we set and communicate our needs and limits clearly.

There are different types of boundaries. For instance, it may involve setting a time limit for social engagements and being firm in leaving when that time is up, even if others try to persuade us to stay longer. It could also involve establishing a boundary for ourselves in response to a family member who tends to shout during conversations, such as leaving the room when the shouting begins.

By setting and maintaining our boundaries, we prioritize our own needs and energy levels. This allows us to avoid becoming people-pleasers or sacrificing our well-being for the sake of others’ comfort. It is essential to remember that our needs are our responsibility, and we can challenge ourselves to not let the needs of others overshadow our own.

Setting boundaries is an act of self-care. It involves recognizing and communicating our needs, limits, and comfort levels in relationships. By establishing and maintaining boundaries, we protect our emotional well-being and create a space where we can prioritize ourselves. It is crucial to remember that boundaries are not about controlling others but about taking care of ourselves. Through setting boundaries, we can cultivate healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

 

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Meet Mindfulness & IFS Guru Ashley Vaden, LMFT

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Reassessing midlife for more fulfillment.

In Season 2, Episode 3 (Part 1) Megan discusses the common experience of feeling stuck or unfulfilled in her midlife journey. She acknowledges the feeling of being a hamster on a hamster wheel, going through the motions without making progress or finding joy. This sentiment resonates with many individuals who reach a point in their lives where they question if they have accomplished all they set out to do and if there is more to life.

Midlife is a natural time for reflection and reassessment. It is a period where individuals evaluate what is working for them and what is not. This introspection is normal and can lead to personal growth and positive change. Megan encourages listeners to reclaim their time, energy, and joy in order to make the most of the second half of their lives.

Ashley Vaden, shares her personal experience and perspective. She talks about growing up in Frankfurt, Kentucky, and the culture shock she experienced when moving to Shelby County. Despite the challenges, she used this time to focus on her studies and develop a love for learning. Ashley expresses her desire to be a lifelong student and emphasizes the importance of continuous growth and curiosity.

Ashley’s journey led her to study psychology in college, driven by her own positive experience with therapy in high school. This decision reflects her desire to understand human behavior and help others. Megan commends Ashley for her work as an office therapist at the Mindfulness Center and highlights her contributions to mindfulness classes.

There is great significance in reassessing midlife for more fulfillment. It encourages individuals to take stock of their lives, identify areas that need improvement, and seek out new experiences that bring joy and peace. By acknowledging the need for change and actively pursuing personal growth, individuals can find greater fulfillment and happiness in the second half of their lives.

Reassessing midlife is not about regret or feeling like time has been wasted. Instead, it is an opportunity to realign priorities, set new goals, and make conscious choices that align with one’s values and passions. It is about finding the courage to make changes and explore new possibilities.

This is a reminder that it is never too late to reassess and make positive changes. Megan encourages listeners to embrace the second half of their lives with a sense of adventure, curiosity, and a commitment to personal growth.

Flexibility and freedom in therapy.

Flexibility and freedom in therapy are crucial aspects that can greatly impact both the therapist and the client. 

Flexibility allows therapists to adapt their approach and techniques to meet the unique needs of each client. Ashley had initially considered pursuing a career in fashion or moving to New York. However, due to financial responsibilities and student loans, she decided to utilize her psychology degree and work as a therapist. This decision demonstrates the flexibility she had to make in order to support her son and pay off her debts. By being open to different possibilities and adapting to the circumstances, she was able to find a job that aligned with her skills and interests.

Furthermore, flexibility in therapy allows therapists to be responsive to the changing needs and goals of their clients. Ashley initially did not want to work with children but found herself working with them in her first job. However, she discovered a love for working with kids and found it to be a profound and life-changing experience. This demonstrates how being open to new experiences and adapting to different client populations can lead to unexpected growth and fulfillment in therapy.

In addition to flexibility, freedom in therapy is also crucial.She mentioned that she decided to transition to a different job after five years of working in a high-intensity setting. She desired more flexibility and freedom to be with her child. This highlights the importance of work-life balance and the need for therapists to prioritize their own well-being and personal lives. By seeking out a job that provides more flexibility, therapists can create a healthier and more fulfilling work environment for themselves.

Freedom in therapy allows clients to feel empowered and in control of their own healing journey. Ashley mentioned how she appreciated having someone tell her what to do when she was feeling burnt out in grad school. By providing clients with the freedom to make choices and take ownership of their healing process, therapists can empower them to overcome challenges and achieve their goals.

Internal Family Systems empowers change.

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a therapeutic modality that empowers individuals to create change from within. It recognizes that within each person, there are multiple parts that make up their internal system. These parts can be seen as different aspects of the individual’s personality, each with its own unique characteristics and motivations. The goal of IFS is to help individuals understand and connect with these parts, and ultimately, to find harmony and balance within themselves.

In this episode, Megan talks about the transformative power of IFS in the lives of both therapists and clients. Ashley shares her experience of transitioning from working in an agency to starting her own private practice. Initially, she felt afraid and uncertain about this change, but when she shared her decision with her boss, he expressed his support and decided to join her in this new venture. This moment of validation and support brought a sense of relief and confirmation that she was on the right path. It highlights how IFS can provide individuals with the courage and confidence to make significant life changes.

Internal Family Systems empowers change by providing individuals with the tools and understanding to explore and connect with their internal selves It encourages flexibility, adaptability, and self-compassion, allowing individuals to make meaningful changes in their lives. 

If you are interested in learning more about Internal Family Systems and therapy, make sure to check out this interview with Ashley on the shift your shit podcast! 

 

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