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Boundaries, Self-Care & Difficult People: Part 1

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On Episode 23, Part One of SOS, Rob and Megan discuss difficult people and the challenge of setting boundaries and practicing self-care with individuals who demand attention or participation. They explore different types of difficult people and the reasons why it can be hard to say no, particularly for people with high empathy. The episode highlights the importance of taking care of oneself and recognizing when it’s necessary to say no.

Set healthy boundaries.

Setting healthy boundaries is an important part of life. Whether it be in relationships with family, friends, or co-workers, learning how to set boundaries can help us take better care of ourselves and protect our emotional and physical health.

One of the most common issues people face when it comes to setting boundaries is dealing with difficult people. Difficult people can come in many forms, such as a boss, spouse, neighbor, or even one of your own children. In these cases, it is important to remember that it is not your responsibility to take care of someone else, but rather to take care of yourself. This can be especially challenging for those who are highly sensitive or empaths, as they often feel a strong sense of responsibility to help others.

When it comes to setting boundaries, it is important to remember that saying “no” is an acceptable response. It is not necessary to feel guilty for saying no, as it is perfectly acceptable to take care of yourself first. Additionally, it is important to remember that when it comes to setting boundaries, it is an art. It is not necessary to be harsh or abrupt, but rather to be honest and direct. 

In order to set healthy boundaries, it is important to practice self-care. This can include taking time for yourself to relax and recharge, as well as taking time to practice the art of saying no. It is important to remember that it is okay to take care of yourself in order to protect your own emotional and physical health. 

Overall, setting healthy boundaries is an important part of life. It is important to remember that it is okay to take care of yourself and to practice the art of saying no. Taking the time to practice self-care and learn how to set boundaries can help protect our emotional and physical health.

Pressure versus Choice.

When it comes to taking care of ourselves, it is important to be honest with ourselves and with those around us. We could be aware of our own capabilities and limitations and be honest about what we can and cannot do. This helps us to take care of ourselves and also encourages those around us to do the same. Setting boundaries can also help us to stay in control of our lives and help us to manage our stress levels.

Sometimes, it can be difficult to say no. Stress can make it harder to set boundaries and it can create a sense of urgency. This can lead to us feeling like we “should” be doing something or that we “should” have already done something. We need to be aware of this and learn to replace the word “should” with “could”. This can help us to recognize the difference between pressure and choice.

 

We could also be aware of the “shoulds” in our internal dialogue. It is easy to get caught up in “shoulding” all over ourselves and we need to be mindful of this. We can also help others to become aware of the “shoulds” by talking about them and helping them to recognize when they are saying or hearing the word “should.”

 

Setting boundaries and taking care of ourselves is important for our emotional and physical health. We need to be honest with ourselves and with those around us about our capabilities and limitations. We could also be aware of the “shoulds” in our internal dialogue and learn to replace them with “could”. With practice, we can learn to set healthy boundaries and take better care of ourselves.

Practice Self-Care.

It is natural to want to help others and contribute to the world. We have a desire to be of service and to make a difference. But it is important to remember that our own wellbeing is just as important as the wellbeing of others. We can be of service and do good in the world without sacrificing our own needs. We could be mindful of our values, and recognize when our emotions are pushing us to do something that is not in line with our values. We could also be aware of our own limitations and recognize that we cannot do everything.

 Setting boundaries is not always easy, especially when it comes to dealing with difficult people. It can be hard to stand up for ourselves and set limits with people who are used to getting their way. But it is important to remember that we have the right to do what is best for us. We could be clear and direct when communicating our boundaries and expectations, and be consistent in following through with them.

It is also important to practice self-care. We need to make sure that we are taking care of ourselves and that we are getting the rest and relaxation that we need. We could also be mindful of our emotional needs and take time to nurture our relationships. Taking care of ourselves and setting healthy boundaries can help us to feel more empowered and in control of our lives.

Setting boundaries and taking care of ourselves is an important part of maintaining our emotional and physical health. We could be aware of our values and our limitations, and be mindful of the “shoulds” in our internal dialogue. We could also be clear and direct when setting boundaries and expectations, and practice self-care. With practice, we can learn to set healthy boundaries and take better care of ourselves.

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Technology & Mindfulness

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by Britt Riddle

I noticed recently that my smartwatch was giving me the “high heart rate” alarm more often than usual, which got me curious about how, if my watch can give me clues about when my nervous system may be heading toward dysregulation, I might also use it to help me move toward increased balance and emotional regulation.

If you wear a smartwatch, you’re likely familiar with the haptic sensation—that silent, slight vibration that provides tactile feedback—it’s just noticeable enough to notify us of a text, email, or movement goal, but undetectable to those around us. I downloaded a metronome app (mine is called Pulse, I’m sure there are many others) and set the metronome beat slower and slower. With each beat, I felt the haptic vibration on my wrist, and within a couple of minutes, I noticed my heart rate was decreasing—my heart rate and inhales/exhales were falling into sync with the rhythm of the vibration of the metronome.

This is a process called entrainment: when our body syncs with an external rhythm. This happens naturally when we dance to the beat of music we’re listening to or tap our fingers or feet to the rhythm of a sound we hear in our environment. When our nervous systems are heightened and we are in a state of fight, flight, or freeze, entrainment can help us start to shift from feeling tense, restless, and on edge to a state of relaxation. Our breathing and heart rate slow down, our muscles begin to relax, and we can bring ourselves back to the present moment where we can then choose to respond rather than react.

I usually set the metronome app on my watch to about 60 beats per minute for 3-5 minutes, and the more often I use it, the more easily my heart rate and breathing begin to sync with its rhythms. I also discovered an app called Sense Relief that provides haptic vibrations for three minutes straight, which I find helpful for bringing me mindfully back to the present when I am feeling stress rise in my mind and body. These gentle vibrations act as a cue, reminding me to take a deep breath and/or do a quick body scan to check in with how I am feeling and what I need.

As a therapist (and human), I love making technology work for/with me and my clients. The great thing aboutBritt, Riddle, Religious, Spiritual, Development, Injury using haptic vibration is that it can be used anywhere—in meetings at work, in between classes at school, out and about, or at home—to increase feelings of calm and peace.

If you are interested in exploring more about mindfulness, stress, and emotional regulation, I would be glad to talk with you to see how we might work together. You can contact me or schedule a free 10-minute consultation or first appointment with me here.

I look forward to hearing from you!

Britt Riddle, DMin, MDiv, MAMFT has over fifteen years of experience working in various helping professions and navigating and recovering from compassion fatigue and burnout. She specializes in working with people in helping professions who want to prevent or reduce compassion fatigue—by clarifying their values, nurturing inner peace, cultivating mindfulness practices and perspectives, and rediscovering what brings joy in their lives.

 

 

Making Friends With Money

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Shifting Our Sh!t Podcast Episode #20: Megan Bayles Bartley tells co-host Rob Giltner all about her annual January retreat in Napa Valley. The weather in the area was unpredictable, with pouring rain and occasional sunshine. Megan discussed a new book she has written which contains exercises to help reset and reframe. She also discussed her new theme for the year, which she had come up with even before the retreat.

Here are some takeaways from Episode #20:

Set goals and achieve them.

Setting goals and achieving them is an important part of life and can help us to reach our fullest potential. Having clear objectives and working towards them can provide us with a sense of accomplishment and purpose. On the SOS podcast, we will explore the importance of setting goals and how to go about achieving them.

Setting goals can help to provide us with focus and direction. It can help us to break down our long-term goals into smaller, achievable steps. We can also set short-term goals to help us stay motivated and on track. It is important to remember that goals should be realistic, measurable, and achievable.

Once we have set our objectives, we can create a plan of action. This plan should include a timeline for completing each goal, as well as a list of resources and support that we may need to achieve them. It is also important to set checkpoints along the way to help us measure our progress.

In addition to setting goals, it is important to stay motivated and focused. It can be easy to get distracted or discouraged, but it is important to remember why we set the goals in the first place and to stay focused on our end goal. We can also use positive affirmations and self-talk to help us stay motivated.

Megan recently returned from a retreat that she attended to help her set goals and achieve them. She and her fellow participants developed a theme for the year based on what they visualized for themselves at the end of the year. They also made bracelets with their theme word to remind them of their goals.

Setting goals and achieving them can help us to reach our fullest potential. It is important to set realistic, measurable, and achievable goals and to create a plan of action with a timeline for completing each goal. We should also stay motivated and focused on our end goal and use positive affirmations and self-talk to help us stay on track. By following these steps, we can set goals and achieve them.

Greed makes me uncomfortable.

However, when it comes to money and greed, I find it difficult to stay motivated and focused. Greed makes me uncomfortable and I feel like it is a distraction from my real goals. Greed can lead to an unhealthy obsession with money and material possessions. It can also lead to a feeling of entitlement, which can be damaging to our relationships and our overall well-being.

When I think of the amount of money that some of the wealthiest people in the world have, I think of all the good I could do with that money. I think of how I could help those in need and improve the lives of so many people. It’s not that I want to be greedy, but I do want to use my resources to make the world a better place.

I have come to realize that money can be a powerful tool for good. It can be used to fund research, support education, and provide access to basic necessities for those in need. Money can also be used to provide resources for people to pursue their dreams and create a better life for themselves.

In order to use money for good, I have to change my mindset and focus on the positive impact that money can have. I need to be mindful of my spending and focus on investing in what will bring me the most joy and fulfillment. I need to be aware of my own entitlement and recognize that money can be a powerful tool for good.

Greed can make us feel uncomfortable, but it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. We can use money to create positive change in the world. We just need to change our mindset and focus on the positive impact that money can have. With the right mindset, we can use money for good and create a better world for everyone.

Make money without guilt.

Money can be a powerful tool for making positive changes in the world. We can use it to fund projects for the benefit of others, to start businesses that create jobs and economic opportunities, and to invest in education and healthcare. We can also use money to support charities and organizations that are doing good in the world. Money can be used to help those in need and to make a positive difference in the lives of others.

At the same time, we need to be careful not to fall into the trap of feeling guilty when we make money. Money is a tool and it can be used for good or bad, but it doesn’t have to be seen as a negative thing. We can use money to create positive change and to make a difference in the world.

It is important to remember that money is not the only way to make a difference. We can also use our time, knowledge, and skills to help others. We can volunteer our time to help those in need, or use our skills to create something that will benefit others. We can also use our knowledge to educate and empower others.

Making money without guilt is possible if we remember to focus on the positive impact that money can have. We can use money to create positive changes in the world, and we can also use our time, knowledge, and skills to make a difference. With the right mindset, we can make money without guilt and use it to make the world a better place.

Work on your fears.

Money can be a source of fear for many people. Whether it’s the fear of not having enough money, or the fear of having too much, money can be a source of anxiety. We can be afraid to talk about money, because it can be a sensitive subject. We may feel embarrassed to talk about our financial situation, or we may feel ashamed of our money habits. We may also be afraid to take risks with our money, because we don’t want to make a mistake that could cost us in the long run.

It’s important to remember that money is just a tool, and it’s up to us how we use it. We can use money to help others, to invest in our future, or to create a comfortable lifestyle for ourselves. We can also use money to work on our fears. When we work on our fears, we can become more confident with our money decisions and more comfortable with our financial situation.

Working on our fears can help us to make more informed decisions about our money. We can learn to be more mindful about our spending, and we can become more aware of our financial goals. We can also become more aware of our money habits and how they affect our financial situation. When we understand our money habits, we can make more informed decisions and take better control of our financial future.

Working on our fears can also help us to become more confident in our money decisions. We can learn to trust our intuition and be more comfortable with taking risks. We can also become more confident in making money decisions that are in our best interest. Working on our fears can help us to become more confident in our money decisions and more comfortable with our financial situation.

Working on our fears can help us to make better money decisions, become more confident with our money decisions, and become more comfortable with our financial situation. We can use money to create positive changes in the world, and we can also use our time, knowledge, and skills to make a difference. With the right mindset, we can make money without guilt and use it to make the world a better place.

Work on yourself for growth.

Working on ourselves for growth can help us to form healthier relationships and build better connections with those around us. We can learn how to communicate better, how to listen and be more understanding, and how to support each other through difficult times. By developing our interpersonal skills, we can create a more harmonious atmosphere in our lives and in the lives of those around us.

Working on ourselves can also help us to manage our anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues. We can learn how to better manage our emotions and how to cope with the stresses of life. We can also learn how to better regulate our thoughts and feelings, which can help to reduce our stress levels and improve our mental health.

The concept of past lives can be an interesting one to explore. Although we may not have all the answers, there is something to be said for exploring the possibilities. We can take a class on past life exploration and learn more about the concept. We can also take the time to reflect on our own lives and the experiences that have shaped us.

The journey of self-growth is an ongoing one, and it can be a rewarding experience. We can learn how to better manage our money, relationships, and mental health. We can explore the concept of past lives and reflect on our own experiences. Taking the time to work on ourselves for growth can help us to create positive changes in our lives and in the world.

Compassion Fatigue, Anxiety, Caregiver, fatigue

Who Helps the Helpers?

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Is caring for others part of your job? Maybe you are a healthcare worker, faith leader, teacher, or non-profit leader who cares deeply about the people you serve, but sometimes you feel exhausted, frustrated, anxious, or irritable. If so, you may be experiencing compassion fatigue.

My name is Britt Riddle, and I have over fifteen years of experience working in a variety of helping professions and navigating and recovering from compassion fatigue and burnout. Compassion fatigue is a common response to the complex and overwhelming situations we may find ourselves in when working with people who have experienced trauma or other significant stressors in their lives. Now, as a therapist at The Mindfulness Center, I specialize in working with people in helping professions who want to prevent or reduce compassion fatigue—by clarifying their values, nurturing inner peace, cultivating mindfulness practices and perspectives, and rediscovering what brings joy in their lives.

Compassion fatigue refers to the emotional, physical, and spiritual exhaustion that comes from being consistently exposed to stressors in other peoples’ lives.

 Signs you may be experiencing compassion fatigue may include:

  • Emotional Exhaustion: Feeling overwhelmed, burned out, and emotionally drained from caring for others;
  • Physical Exhaustion: Experiencing physical symptoms such as fatigue, headaches, and difficulty sleeping;
  • Spiritual Exhaustion: Feeling disconnected from your values, beliefs, and sense of purpose;
  • Depersonalization: Feeling detached and removed from the people you are trying to help, and experiencing a decrease in empathy and compassion
  • Challenges with Emotional Regulation: Feelings such as anger, frustration, sadness, and hopelessness may feel more intense and may make it more difficult to feel grounded;
  • Decreased Sense of Self-Worth: Feeling that your work is unimportant and not making a difference.

 The good news is that researchers have identified specific risk factors and protective factors for compassion fatigue and burnout. This means we can work on shifting our perspectives, learning new skills, and making small changes to our environment to reduce compassion fatigue. When protective factors for compassion fatigue are cultivated, compassion resilience can emerge—the ability to maintain our physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being while compassionately caring for others.

People and workplaces that foster resilience on a regular basis create an environment where employees feel less stress, experience fewer feelings of imposter syndrome, are more socially connected, and find greater meaning in their work. This leads to greater work satisfaction, increased productivity, and less burnout/turnover.

 In addition to providing therapy, we often get requests from organizations about how we can support their work and their employees. We care best for others when we ourselves feel supported, which is why we would be glad to partner with you to customize trainings, workshops, and support/education groups to support your employees and organization as you do the important work of caring for others.

Britt, Riddle, Religious, Spiritual, Development, Injury If you are interested in exploring compassion fatigue and compassion resilience, either for yourself or your organization, I would be glad to talk with you more about this to see how we might work together. You can contact me or schedule a free 10-minute consultation or first appointment with me here: https://mindfulness-center.com/our-team/britt-riddle-dmin-mamft/. I look forward to hearing from you!

 

 

Do I Stay or Do I Go?

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In general, relationships are tough, even for those who’ve been married, friends, or coworkers for years.

How do we recognize when a relationship is good for us or when a relationship isn’t good for us? Often, the lines are fuzzier than we’d like, black and white don’t apply, and we live in a foggy grey, feeling stuck. Sometimes happy. Sometimes frustrated. Almost always anxious. 

So much of this is normal. The images portrayed to us in movies or books present relationships, especially romantic relationships, and decisions that look easy. “The one” is always obvious. Friends are always funny and supportive. Sex is always amazing. Conversations over tough topics are nonexistent or minimal. So, when we encounter a real relationship and it doesn’t look like that, we really aren’t sure what to make of it, or how to assess if it’s “good” or not. Whether it’s a friend, coworker, or spouse, the proverbial question becomes, “do I stay or do I go?” 

Jennifer, Komis, Mindfulness, CenterAs a therapist, I specialize in helping people flourish, whether that means leaving a toxic relationship of some sort or working to improve a relationship in their life that’s worth it. I work with individuals who aren’t sure what they want and help them determine what’s a right choice for them, not THE right choice, as right choices are almost always multiple.

So, we talk about boundaries, feeling safe, communication, fears, hopes, and how in the world we might honor all of those things in the decisions we make for ourselves. We talk about how the messages we experience growing up sometimes influence how we see people or relationships now. We discuss how to choose what to do in our relationships, as opposed to living a life on autopilot that feels consistently unfulfilling. We make all the space we need to calmly tackle the hard questions about what the next steps might look like in workplaces, marriages, and friendships.

In short, I partner with you as you build a future you can be excited about and that nourishes you, mind, body, and spirit.

If this sounds interesting to you and you’d like to explore working with me, please feel free to schedule a free 10-minute phone consultation or first appointment with me HERE. I look forward to chatting with you!

Discover the healing power that art can provide

Mindfulness Through Creativity: Making Vision Boards

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Are you having difficulty moving forward and achieving your goals?
Do you know what you want, but do not know what steps to take to get you there?
Have you heard of vision boards?

Creating a vision board is a creative and fun way to put your ideas on paper so you can see them.

A vision board is a type of collage. You can add magazine images and words, copies of photographs, or meaningful quotes. If you have any personal items or things you have gathered from nature you can add them to your artwork. It is up to you how you arrange everything and attach it to your board.

The vision board is a tool to help you to see yourself achieving your goals. Set your goals high and be open and willing to go outside of your comfort zone. When you do this it will help you to let go of negative thoughts and bring your dreams to life.

A vision board can help you develop an awareness of the specific changes you want to make in your personal life, career, or relationships with others. It is an inspirational way to explore exactly what it will take to get you to your ideal life.

You can put the finished board somewhere where it can be a daily reminder to help you to stay focused on what you really want to do this year.
Mental Magnetism
Mental magnetism is when you can see something, you can actually believe it. Sometimes it helps to have an actual picture of what you desire. It helps to draw positive things you are wanting into your life. Otherwise, you may have a blurry picture of what it is you want and it can keep you from reaching your goals.
Creating a vision board is an interactive way to move toward what you want. The pictures and words you select are very powerful. They can allow what is on the inside to come out so you can actually see it. It is like bringing them to life. It helps you to create a new image so you can see what is possible and allows you to move toward your amazing future.

Group Synergy

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While you can create your vision board in the comfort of your own home, it can be very helpful to make yours in a group setting. Creating your vision board with a group of people can be fun and exhilarating. When a group of people gather together with a similar goal in mind – achieving new things, thinking positively, and creating – the synergy can elevate the process and perhaps even help you accomplish your goals quicker!

Art Therapist, Rachel Taylor Martin, invites you to join her on Friday, February 17th from 6-9 pm to make your own vision board for 2023. She will provide all the supplies and light refreshments.
Space is limited so please register at THIS LINK to reserve your spot. Feel free to invite a friend and register together!
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The Healing Power of Art

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Did you know that you can be creative without actually drawing?!

Art therapy is an “expressive therapy” like dancing, music, drama, and writing. The purpose is to express yourself in a way that works best for you and open up new ways of thinking. Making art can give you a sense of empowerment and confidence as you work through what is bothering you. The most important thing to remember is to relax and trust the process as you explore what your mind, body, and spirit are telling you so that you can heal.

Doing something physical and creative, creating something outside of ourselves, is a wonderful way to restore peace. Holding, touching, and experiencing the sensation of changing the art material into something we can relate to is very rewarding. It can be done with model magic, Play-Doh, or clay. Something happens as we tap into our feelings and just allow the natural process of creation to occur. It reminds me of simpler times when our ancestors would make their own pottery, furniture, and clothing.

The simple act of slowing down and connecting with our thoughts and feelings can be a wonderful journey to self-discovery. Oftentimes, people seek therapy when they have come to a point in their life where things have built up inside and they are having difficulty balancing or functioning. It is challenging to unlock these feelings by yourself. Having someone to talk to and validate your feelings can speed up the healing process.

Here are a few ways art therapy can help unlock the healing power of art:

Collage art is kind of like scrapbooking. You can combine colorful papers, magazine words, and various images to express yourself creatively. As you arrange the art materials on the paper it allows you to make sense of your world and what is going on inside of you so you can get a better understanding and clear your mind of the clutter that has been building up. It can be eye-opening when you look at the final product and see how the art tells your story.

Creating mandalas (circle-shaped designs), mosaic designs (small pieces of colored paper or materials arranged to provide texture), and Zentangles (tiny doodles, patterns, or spontaneous designs inside of a space) are great ways to get focused and lost in the zone as you slow down and connect with the art.

Painting gives you an opportunity to use the colors to unlock the feelings you have been holding inside. You may experience relief as the feelings appear on the paper and you can see what has been hurting you. Just holding the paintbrush in your hand can give you some emotional distance as the feelings move from inside of you onto the paper. Remember it is not about producing a beautiful piece of artwork it is more about healing and discovering what has been going on inside and letting it out.

Journaling is another way to experience this. You can play around with colored pencils, markers, crayons, and chalk or oil pastels which allows the intensity of your underlying feelings to appear visually with soft or vibrant colors. Something happens as the thought or feeling travels from your mind to your hand and on to the paper in front of you. It is a kind of release that can be a very emotional and healing experience depending on what you are expressing as you create your art.

Art therapy is for all people. Of course, children will benefit because they are so open to trying new things. After all, everything is new to them. They are eager to learn and love the colors because they are engaging and fun. When a child doesn’t know the words they can express themselves with art. It can give them a voice if they have been unable to talk about deep feelings. And, the same thing can happen with adults. Most of us do not make time for ourselves. However, finding time to explore what is causing our pain will provide comfort and relief so we can have more time for things that really matter to us.

If this sounds like an interesting experience for you, and you’d like to find out more, feel free to schedule a free 10-minute consult with me at your convenience online HERE!

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Rachel Taylor Martin, LPAT specializes in art therapy with people of all ages to help process, heal, and make sense of feelings and experiences that are hard to put words to. If you have a sense that art therapy could be an interesting experience and/or right for you, then likely it will be! Plus, there’s no need to be artistic! It is in the act of creating that healing and insight can come, not necessarily in the finished product. Creating art connects us to our subconscious which is full of wonderfully helpful information. Clients report Rachel is genuine, compassionate, holistic, and non-judgmental.

Megan Bayles Bartley is excited for Rachel to join the team and knows she will be a wonderful resource for you.

Find out more on Rachel’s bio page on the Louisville Mindfulness Center website!

What is art therapy and how can it help people

Is Art Therapy Right for You?!

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Hello there! My name is Rachel Taylor Martin and I am a Licensed Professional Art Therapist. I’m wondering how long has it been since you colored, drew, or made some type of art. Unless you are artistic, you probably stopped making art around age 11 or 12. Creating art can help you to de-stress and relax. It can give you the opportunity to get lost (in the zone).

Have you heard the saying “a picture is worth a thousand words?” The reason behind this is that a single image can inspire many words. Art therapy helps us to work through our emotional issues.

When this occurs it can bring underlying thoughts and feelings to the surface where they can be examined and worked through. This can enhance and speed up the healing process. Sometimes we don’t have the words to describe how we are feeling inside. Art can increase self-awareness visually without using words, opening up a new way of expressing ourselves. It can be beneficial to anyone who is experiencing distress and looking for relief from the emotional pain that is keeping them from enjoying or moving forward in life.

Some of the people I have worked with have found the experience of art therapy eye-opening and empowering. It really doesn’t matter what age you are. Can you remember a piece of art you saw that took your breath away, really captured your attention, or made you more curious? Whether you experienced the artwork in person, in a book, or online art is powerful. It truly is a way of connecting with ourselves and others.

Here are some things I love about Art Therapy:

+ Art is universal
+It doesn’t matter how it turns out – it is about the art-making experience
+It can enhance the healing process
+It is a great way to take time for yourself which is self-care
+It can be a rewarding experience.
+It is a wonderful way to increase self-love and self-worth
+Sometimes just opening up and letting go of the things that have been causing you pain can provide a sense of peace and acceptance.
+Making art allows for self-reflection
+Sometimes we have to step out of our comfort zone to learn something new which helps us to grow and become the best version of ourselves
+It can give you a chance to look within and discover what is actually bothering you so you can express it
+It can help you to organize your thoughts and improve clarity and focus
+It allows you to get in touch with your senses through various types of art media
+Connections can be made as you resonate with the art.
+It can provide quiet time

When we take time for ourselves and try new things it makes us feel better and gives us the courage to make the changes we want to make in ourselves and our lives. It can alleviate the pain we have been holding on to and give us relief. Art therapy is a way to restore a sense of well-being and help us become unstuck. Being open-minded and trusting the process can allow emotions to move through you as you experience the therapeutic value of art.

If this sounds like an interesting experience for you, and you’d like to find out more, feel free to schedule a free 10-minute consult with me at your convenience online HERE!

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Rachel Taylor Martin, LPAT specializes in art therapy with people of all ages to help process, heal, and make sense of feelings and experiences that are hard to put words to. If you have a sense that art therapy could be an interesting experience and/or right for you, then likely it will be! Plus, there’s no need to be artistic! It is in the act of creating that healing and insight can come, not necessarily in the finished product. Creating art connects us to our subconscious which is full of wonderfully helpful information. Clients report Rachel is genuine, compassionate, holistic, and non-judgmental.

Megan Bayles Bartley is excited for Rachel to join the team and knows she will be a wonderful resource for you.

Find out more on Rachel’s bio page on the Louisville Mindfulness Center website!

How parents can use tools like self-compassion and reframing at home to help.

Tools for Your Parenting Toolbox: SELF-COMPASSION & REFRAMING

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Welcome back to the third and final post in my series on how we can support our kids by using some simple therapeutic strategies at home. I’m Kim Hamilton and a therapist at Louisville Mindfulness Center. I specialize in working with kids, teens, and parents to create family harmony. I love to support parents by offering them tools for their parenting toolbox to handle the stress and uncertainty that comes along with parenting.

In the past weeks, I have told you about three other tools  – Attunement, Emotional Literacy, and Self-Regulation. With these skills, you are able to take notice when your child needs a deeper level of attention, help them to understand what they are feeling and why, and give them tips on how to cope in the moment. Be sure to check out the previous posts for more detail!

Today I will share with you the final two tools: self-compassion and reframing.

SELF-COMPASSION

Give yourself and your child a break! If your child is hard on themselves, don’t just tell them to calm down. Instead, talk with them about the three steps to implement self-compassion:

  1. Acknowledge that you are experiencing pain and be kind to yourself. Being kind to yourself increases well-being, reduces anxiety and depression and can help fend off other health issues like substance abuse, eating disorders, and suicidal ideation.
  2. Recognize that you are not alone. We are so creatures and mostly all harbor some amount of empathy for other people. If someone around you is feeling anxious, you will most likely pick up on that and feel some anxiety. This is especially true for close relationships, like parents and children. 
  3. Put your experiences in perspective to moderate your own negative reactivity. If your child is having a high-intensity moment and you are feeling yourself getting worked up, instead of exploding, implement self-compassion instead. You can do this by speaking out loud or silently to calm yourself. Your child benefits regardless.
REFRAMING

This final tool is one of my favorites! When we get annoyed, mad, or frustrated with our kids, we often begin labeling them either out loud or in our heads. Instead of automatically going to that place, try thinking about other ways you can look at the situation.

By avoiding assumptions and judgments you can see and become open to other possibilities and can envision positive paths forward. For example, if your child is upset because they are having trouble with a friend, they may immediately go to the worst possible scenario and assume things like the friend doesn’t like them anymore or maybe even that nobody likes them. You can help them feel better by reframing the situation and asking questions like, “What’s the worst thing that could happen? Is it forever or just temporary? Is it everybody?”

Help them to question the assumptions they are making and to think optimistically. This way they are able to see bad things as temporary and specific. It’s easy to generalize and view bad situations as permanent when we are sad or upset. By reframing, we can see the other, more realistic, possibilities.

I hope you have enjoyed learning these five skills and are now able to implement them into practice with yourself and with your family! By learning how to be a more effective parent and really listening to our kids, we build their resilience so they can be happy, motivated, and empowered.

If you have experimented with these tools with your children, I’d love to know how it went! Feel free to email me and let me know: [email protected].

If you liked what you read and feel I could be of assistance to you and your family, feel free to schedule a free 10-minute consult with me at your convenience online HERE!

Kim Hamilton, MAMFT specializes in working with kids, teens, and parents to bring emotional regulation and harmony to families and households. She works from a non-judgmental, solution-focused, non-pathologizing perspective that creates win-win scenarios within relationships. Megan Bayles Bartley is excited for Kim to join the team and knows she will be a wonderful resource for your family.

Find out more on Kim’s bio page on the Louisville Mindfulness Center website!

 

 

*This blog was inspired by the Washington Post article: “Five skills parents can learn so they can help their children cope”

Ready for a RESET?!

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Ready for a reset?!

Yeah, me too!! It’s definitely that time of year!

With that said, I LOVE summertime! Every year I think that I’ll take the summer “off” and not work so much. That lasts about one week and then things start moving and shaking. All the balls I juggle don’t just disappear, they’re still there and need my attention. So I’m currently back to juggling all my balls while balancing the kiddos out of school and trying to get in a bit of time away…one weekend to Nashville, another to Lake Cumberland.

I will say, now that my kids are older (9 and 12) I’m not (YET!) as desperate to get them back in school ASAP as I was when they were younger. They are pretty self-sufficient and my husband, who works remotely from home, loves having the company…so do the pups – Lemon Drop and Deuce Pugalo!

Now, let’s dream of the reset we need… time, space, quiet, relaxation, nature, beauty, creativity…what would you add?

In January I will be heading back to Napa Valley for my annual retreat time and would love to take a few people along who are looking to reset and refresh as well. Could that be you?

This year I will host a women’s retreat (January 9-13) as well as a co-ed, weekend (January 12-16) retreat.

Early Bird Registration will be open for two weeks beginning mid-August. General Registration opens September 1st.

Check out the details below. Early bird registration will be availabe mid-August through end of August. Full registration opens September 1, 2022.

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