How To Change Your Memories

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What are Maladaptively Stored Memories?

Our memories shape who we are, but sometimes, they can hold us back. Maladaptively stored memories are distressing experiences that haven’t been properly processed by the brain. They can be intrusive, causing flashbacks, nightmares, and intense emotions. They can be painful events from childhood when our brain wasn’t fully developed and the adults around us tried to “protect” us from what was happening. These memories need to be fully processed with a fully developed brain.

 

How Do They Affect Us?

Maladaptive memories can wreak havoc on our mental well-being. They can lead to:

  • Anxiety

  • Depression

  • Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

  • Unhealthy coping mechanisms

 

How Can Mindfulness Help?

Mindfulness practices can help us approach maladaptive memories with greater awareness and compassion. By learning to observe our thoughts and feelings without judgment, we can begin to detach from the emotional grip of the past.

Here are some mindfulness techniques that can help:

  • Meditation: Meditation can help us become more aware of our thoughts and feelings, and to let go of unhelpful attachments.

  • Journaling: Writing down our thoughts and feelings about a maladaptive memory can help us to process it and gain new insights.

  • Body awareness: Paying attention to our physical sensations can help us to identify and release tension associated with a maladaptive memory.

 

EMDR And Seeking Help

If you are struggling with maladaptive memories, you don’t have to go it alone. Our therapists can teach you coping mechanisms and help you process your experiences in a safe and supportive environment.

EMDR is a therapeutic technique specifically designed to help with reprocessing. Without having to fully re-experience the event. We can process current sensations and feelings that remind us of that previous event. We can then learn skills to address negative cognitions and triggering feelings to respond differently or have no response at all. Your memories don’t have to hold you back or make you feel powerless to your emotions. Reach out if you are wanting to feel more control and enjoyment in your life.

If you are interested in learning more please contact Elizabeth McCormack, LMFT for a 10 minute consultation to see if EMDR would be your next step to emotional freedom.

Mindfulness is a journey, not a destination. By developing a greater awareness of our thoughts and feelings, we can begin to heal from the past and create a brighter future.

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Elizabeth McCormack, LMFT is our therapist at The Mindfulness Center offering EMDR. Feel free to schedule a FREE 10-minute consultation with her to see if working together is optimal for both of you. Or, if you’re ready to schedule your first therapy session, you can schedule with Elizabeth HERE!

Couples Therapy & Sexual Intimacy

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Therapy experiences and their importance.

Therapy is a process that involves seeking professional help to address and resolve personal issues, emotional struggles, and mental health challenges. It provides individuals with a safe and supportive space to explore their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and work towards personal growth and healing. 

Many individuals reach a point in their lives where they question whether they have achieved all they set out to do and if they feel fulfilled. This feeling of stagnation or dissatisfaction is common during midlife, prompting individuals to reassess what is working for them and what is not. Therapy is a means to reclaim one’s time, energy, and joy, and make the most out of the second half of life.

Rob Giltner, shares his own experience with therapy. Rob reveals that his first encounter with therapy was forced upon him by his parents when he was around 10 to 12 years old. While the details are hazy, he acknowledges that his early therapy experiences were not positive. This negative experience has led him to develop a pet peeve when clients share their own negative experiences with therapy. He emphasizes the importance of finding the right fit with a therapist and encourages clients to seek a new therapist if they are not comfortable or satisfied with their current one.

The conversation then delves into the role of parents in determining whether a child needs therapy. Both Megan and Rob agree that parents might not force their children into therapy unless there are clear signs of negative behavior or emotional struggles. They emphasize the importance of open communication and support within the family, as parents can often play a significant role in addressing their child’s issues without the need for professional intervention.

Rob also highlights the privilege of being surrounded by therapists in his professional life. He mentions the benefit of having supervisors who are therapists, as they provide guidance and support that can be personally transformative. Additionally, he acknowledges the therapeutic nature of the relationships within their own therapy center, where compassion, honesty, and authenticity are valued. The creation of a positive and supportive environment among therapists contributes to their overall well-being and enhances the quality of care they provide to their clients.

Communication and compromise in relationships.

We know the importance of finding a therapist who is helpful and supportive. Rob shares that he eventually found a therapist who was beneficial to him, but he only sees them sparingly. He also mentions the positive influence of being around the mindfulness center, which rubs off on him and provides additional support.

There is great importance in having a support system during challenging seasons of life. Seeking premarital therapy before getting married, can help couples navigate potential issues and strengthen their relationship. Megan discusses libido in relationships. They share a story they heard about a priest telling a wife that she should have sex whenever her husband wants, due to his higher libido. This story horrifies them, and they express their disagreement with such a perspective. They then delve into a discussion about how to navigate differences in libido within a relationship.

They highlight the importance of open communication and being able to talk about difficult topics such as libido. They acknowledge that discussing sex can sometimes be taboo in relationships, but it is crucial to address these issues. They mention the need for both partners to be able to share their needs and wants, while also being open to accepting their partner’s influence. They emphasize the importance of teamwork and compromise in finding solutions that work for both individuals in the relationship.

Sexual intimacy changes over time.

Sexual intimacy is a crucial aspect of any romantic relationship, but it is not static and unchanging. Sexual intimacy changes over time. Megan and Rob discuss the normalcy of couples having different libidos, as they are two separate individuals with different experiences and needs. It is natural for sexual intimacy to evolve and shift as the relationship progresses and as individuals go through different stages of life.

They mention that early on in a relationship, couples tend to be more sexually intimate. This can be attributed to the excitement and curiosity that comes with a new partnership. There is a dopamine rush and a sense of investment in getting to know each other. Megan and Rob emphasize the importance of curiosity in a relationship, as it fosters exploration and the creation of shared meaning. Trying new things and stepping out of one’s comfort zone together can strengthen the bond between partners.

However, as time goes on and life’s stressors and responsibilities increase, sexual intimacy may change. They mention factors such as having children or work demands that can shift the focus away from sexual intimacy. Stress can affect performance, and the need for safety and emotional vulnerability can also impact a couple’s ability to be sexually intimate. They describe sexual intimacy as fragile, vulnerable, and delicate, requiring caution and care.

It is important to note that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to a healthy sex life in a relationship. What works for one couple may not work for another. They caution against comparing oneself to societal expectations or rigid standards set by popular culture. They stress the need for couples to define their own normalcy and determine what constitutes a healthy sex life for their specific relationship. This requires open and honest communication between partners.

Discussing sex can be challenging and uncomfortable for many couples. However, they highlight the value of being open and honest with each other, especially for therapists who understand the importance of addressing sexual intimacy in relationships. They emphasize that the brain is the largest sex organ, and how individuals think and feel about sex can greatly impact their sexual experiences. Hormonal changes, such as menopause or aging, can also affect sexual intimacy.

Couples therapy for healing and growth.

Couples therapy is a valuable tool for healing and growth within relationships. The work that is involved in couples therapy and the benefits that can be gained from it are huge. There are many accomplishments that can be achieved through couples therapy,  it is not a one-size-fits-all approach and may not be suitable for every couple.

Some couples may only need therapy for maintenance purposes, where they can discuss their concerns and leave with clarity. However, the focus of this particular therapy is on couples who have experienced significant loss, struggle with communication, or feel disconnected from each other. This therapy aims to help couples reconnect, repair their relationship, and heal from past wounds.

Couples therapy is collaborative in nature. The therapist works closely with the couple to develop a plan that aligns with their specific needs and goals. This collaborative approach ensures that the therapy is tailored to the couple’s unique circumstances and challenges.

Just as one exercises their body at the gym, couples are encouraged to practice their communication skills and relationship-building exercises outside of therapy. This practice helps to reinforce the skills learned in therapy and allows couples to make progress in their relationship.

Accountability is another important aspect of couples therapy. Some couples may need external accountability to stay on track with their goals and commitments. The therapist provides this accountability and helps the couple set measurable goals to track their progress. If the goals are not being met, the therapist helps the couple explore the reasons behind it and find alternative approaches.

While the work involved in couples therapy may sound stern and rigid, the therapist assures that it is also soft, comforting, and healing. The therapy incorporates art, music, metaphor, and other creative approaches to make the process more engaging and effective. The therapist places a strong emphasis on creating a comfortable and safe environment for all participants, ensuring that everyone feels heard, seen, respected, and loved.

Listen to this Episode HERE!

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Meet Couples Therapy Expert Rob Giltner, LMFT!

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In Shifting Our Shit (SOS) Podcast Season 2, Episode 8, Rob Giltner’s passion for couples is evident as he discusses his work as a therapist. Rob’s interest in couples therapy stems from his personal experiences and natural inclination towards being a “feeler.” His ability to understand and navigate powerful emotions makes him well-suited for helping couples navigate their own emotional landscapes. This empathy and understanding are crucial in creating a safe and supportive environment for couples to explore their relationship dynamics.

 

Rob’s journey to becoming a therapist started with his recognition of the mindful perspective and the importance of relationships. As he grew older, he developed a deeper understanding of emotions and their impact on individuals and their relationships. This understanding likely fueled his desire to pursue a career in therapy and help couples build healthier, more fulfilling connections.

 

Being a male therapist in a field often dominated by women is noteworthy, as it brings a unique perspective and representation to couples seeking therapy. Rob’s ability to connect with both male and female clients is a valuable asset, as it allows him to address the needs and concerns of both partners in a relationship. His presence in the field challenges stereotypes and promotes inclusivity, making therapy more accessible and relatable for all couples.

 

Rob’s passion for couples is further highlighted by his commitment to prioritizing social health and fostering connections among individuals. He recognizes the challenges of maintaining social relationships as one grows older and believes in the importance of creating opportunities for people to come together. This dedication to building community and supporting social well-being extends beyond his therapy practice and demonstrates his genuine care for the well-being of couples and individuals alike.

 

Passion for working with couples.

From the beginning of the episode, Rob mentions his ability to connect with emotions and suggests that he has a natural affinity for understanding and empathizing with others. This sensitivity likely plays a significant role in his ability to connect with couples and help them navigate their relationship challenges.

 

Rob emphasizes the importance of relationships in his own life, including family, friends, and romantic partnerships. He recognizes the value of these connections and the impact they have on personal growth and well-being. This recognition likely fuels his passion for working with couples, as he understands the transformative power that healthy and fulfilling relationships can have on individuals and their overall happiness.

 

Rob’s interest in relationships deepened during college when he took a class on the subject. This experience sparked a desire to learn more and led him to seek out additional resources, such as reading and watching videos. This eagerness to expand his knowledge and understanding of relationships demonstrates his dedication to his craft and his commitment to providing the best possible support to couples.

 

Rob’s parents played a significant role in supporting his passion for working with couples. They connected him with couples therapists they knew, highlighting their belief in his abilities and potential in this field. This support likely reinforced his passion and provided him with valuable insights and experiences that shaped his approach to therapy.

 

Rob’s decision to pursue graduate school immediately after completing his undergraduate degree further exemplifies his dedication to his chosen path. He did not hesitate to continue his education and further develop his skills and knowledge in couples therapy. This commitment to continuous learning and growth is essential in a field that requires therapists to stay up-to-date with the latest research and therapeutic techniques.

 

When asked about his specific interest in working with couples, Rob admits that it was not something he initially considered during college. However, upon entering seminary, he quickly realized that couples therapy was his true calling. While he acknowledges that his skills and expertise have expanded to include individual work, his passion for couples remains unwavering. He describes couples therapy as his “jam” and something he thinks about in his spare time. This level of enthusiasm and dedication is a testament to his genuine passion for helping couples build healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

 

Rob’s ability to connect with couples and ease their concerns is evident in his approach to therapy. He compares therapy to getting an oil change in a car, emphasizing the importance of regular maintenance and addressing wear and tear in relationships. By using this analogy, he normalizes the idea of seeking therapy and encourages couples to see it as a proactive step towards maintaining a healthy and thriving relationship. This approach helps to alleviate any fears or stigmas associated with therapy and fosters a sense of hope and possibility for couples seeking support.

 

Relationships are complex and rewarding.

Relationships are complex and rewarding. Rob discusses the intricacies of relationships and the challenges that individuals face when navigating them. He highlights the importance of recognizing the individuality of each person within a relationship and how this can contribute to the complexity of the dynamic.

 

Rob emphasizes that relationships involve multiple variables and that these variables can greatly impact the overall health and success of the relationship. He acknowledges that relationship stress can have a significant impact on other areas of our lives and emphasizes the importance of protecting and repairing these connections.

 

One aspect of relationships that Rob finds particularly intriguing is the puzzle-like nature of working with couples. He describes the process of therapy as a collaborative effort, where he acts as a guide rather than pushing individuals in a specific direction. He enjoys the challenge of helping couples navigate through the maze of their relationship, finding solutions and resolutions together. This process can be both present and empathetic, as well as intellectually stimulating, as he works with couples to solve the puzzle of their relationship.

 

While therapy can often involve heavy and difficult topics, Rob finds great joy in witnessing couples overcome challenges and find their way out of the maze. He describes this process as euphoric, relieving, and hopeful. It is a moment of triumph and growth for the individuals involved and a testament to the resilience of their relationship.

 

Rob also introduces a spirituality component to his work, acknowledging that there is often a sense of sacredness and intimacy in the vulnerability that couples bring to therapy. He values the perspective of spirituality and recognizes that it can play a significant role in the healing and growth of relationships. He encourages couples to explore this aspect if it resonates with them, but also acknowledges that spirituality can take many forms and can be unique to each individual.

 

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Do All Therapists Get Their Own Therapy?

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Therapy can benefit everyone.

 

Therapy can benefit everyone, regardless of their background, experiences, or personality traits. While Keith Williams admits that he has not yet pursued therapy for himself, he acknowledges that many of his mentors and colleagues would consider it necessary for therapists to undergo therapy.

 

Williams has found solace and healing through being in service to others. He believes that helping others puts his own problems into perspective and allows him to access his true self. While this may provide some therapeutic benefits, Williams recognizes that it does not replace the formal therapy experience. He acknowledges that he may not be as effective as a therapist without having undergone therapy himself.

 

Therapy is not solely for individuals who have had significant struggles or challenges in their lives. Megan questions whether Williams has had a charmed life, implying that therapy may not be necessary for someone who hasn’t faced major hardships. However, Williams counters this notion by sharing that he has indeed faced struggles that have brought him to his knees. He emphasizes that therapy is not just for those who have experienced trauma but can be beneficial for anyone seeking personal growth, self-awareness, and a deeper understanding of themselves.

 

Williams also discusses his brief experience with family therapy, which was not positive. However, he recognizes that the fit between therapist and client is crucial and that sometimes a negative experience can still provide valuable lessons. We know the importance of finding the right therapist and not giving up on therapy if the first attempt is not successful.

 

Megan describes Keith as grounded and settled, suggesting that therapy may not be necessary for someone with his demeanor. However, Williams acknowledges that therapy can benefit individuals with different personalities and dispositions. He believes that therapy offers a sense of purpose, mission, and humility, and helps maintain a balanced perspective on life.

 

We know that therapy can benefit everyone, regardless of their life experiences or personality traits. While individuals may find solace and healing through other means, such as being in service to others, formal therapy provides a unique and valuable opportunity for personal growth, self-reflection, and emotional well-being. It is important for individuals to recognize the potential benefits of therapy and to seek professional help when needed. Therapy is not limited to those who have experienced trauma or significant hardships; it is a tool that can benefit anyone who wishes to lead a more fulfilling and joyful life.

 

Therapy can be transformative.

 

Megan and Keith begin with a discussion about their introspective nature and whether they are more introverted or extroverted. Megan denies being introspective, but Keith disagrees, stating that he can see the reflectiveness in the her. This exchange highlights the importance of self-reflection and internal processing, which are key components of therapy.

 

The conversation then shifts to Keith’s approach in therapy, with Megan describing him as boisterous and humorous. He acknowledges this but also emphasizes the value of being wild and pushing boundaries in the therapy room. They mention Carl Whitaker, a therapy hero known for his unconventional and wild approach, as an inspiration. This is the transformative potential of therapy, as it allows individuals to explore different aspects of themselves and challenge their beliefs and behaviors.

 

Keith also believes in the importance of improvisation in therapy, as there is no way to predict what clients will say or feel. He describes therapy as exhilarating and emphasizes the need for therapists to be present and adaptable.

 

Keith has training in hypnosis and therapy, which he describes as priceless in terms of personal growth and development. He expresses his amazement at how there is always something new and exciting to learn in therapy.

 

Megan then asks Keith about his own experience with therapy and what it would take for him to seek therapy. He reflects on his tendency to only make changes or take risks when something substantial happens in his life. However, he expresses openness to suggestions and acknowledges that he may benefit from therapy if approached by the right person.

 

Premarital counseling is beneficial.

 

Premarital counseling is beneficial for couples who are preparing to get married. We know the positive impact that premarital counseling can have on a relationship. The couple interviewed in the podcast had undergone premarital counseling before getting married, and they credit it with helping them build a successful and lasting marriage.

 

One of the benefits of premarital counseling is the opportunity for therapy without even realizing it. The couple mentions that their premarital counseling sessions can be considered a form of therapy. This suggests that premarital counseling can provide couples with the tools and skills necessary for a healthy and fulfilling relationship, even if they do not initially recognize it as therapy.

 

The couple’s long-lasting marriage of 29 years is also attributed to the premarital therapy they received. They acknowledge that the therapy they underwent before getting married must have played a role in their successful marriage. There is great effectiveness of premarital counseling in helping couples navigate the challenges and conflicts that may arise in a marriage.

 

The couple expresses gratitude towards the therapist they worked with and credits them with creating a safe and supportive environment for their therapy sessions. They also mention the importance of having a free consultation with a therapist before beginning therapy. This allows individuals to determine if the therapist is a good fit for them and if they feel comfortable opening up and sharing their concerns.

 

In addition to premarital counseling, we also touch on the broader benefits of therapy. Therapists have experience working with individuals, couples, families, adolescents, and children, as well as addressing issues such as chemical dependency. This demonstrates the wide range of issues that therapy can help individuals and couples navigate, highlighting the benefits of seeking therapy.

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Meet Mindfulness & IFS Guru Ashley Vaden, LMFT

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Reassessing midlife for more fulfillment.

In Season 2, Episode 3 (Part 1) Megan discusses the common experience of feeling stuck or unfulfilled in her midlife journey. She acknowledges the feeling of being a hamster on a hamster wheel, going through the motions without making progress or finding joy. This sentiment resonates with many individuals who reach a point in their lives where they question if they have accomplished all they set out to do and if there is more to life.

Midlife is a natural time for reflection and reassessment. It is a period where individuals evaluate what is working for them and what is not. This introspection is normal and can lead to personal growth and positive change. Megan encourages listeners to reclaim their time, energy, and joy in order to make the most of the second half of their lives.

Ashley Vaden, shares her personal experience and perspective. She talks about growing up in Frankfurt, Kentucky, and the culture shock she experienced when moving to Shelby County. Despite the challenges, she used this time to focus on her studies and develop a love for learning. Ashley expresses her desire to be a lifelong student and emphasizes the importance of continuous growth and curiosity.

Ashley’s journey led her to study psychology in college, driven by her own positive experience with therapy in high school. This decision reflects her desire to understand human behavior and help others. Megan commends Ashley for her work as an office therapist at the Mindfulness Center and highlights her contributions to mindfulness classes.

There is great significance in reassessing midlife for more fulfillment. It encourages individuals to take stock of their lives, identify areas that need improvement, and seek out new experiences that bring joy and peace. By acknowledging the need for change and actively pursuing personal growth, individuals can find greater fulfillment and happiness in the second half of their lives.

Reassessing midlife is not about regret or feeling like time has been wasted. Instead, it is an opportunity to realign priorities, set new goals, and make conscious choices that align with one’s values and passions. It is about finding the courage to make changes and explore new possibilities.

This is a reminder that it is never too late to reassess and make positive changes. Megan encourages listeners to embrace the second half of their lives with a sense of adventure, curiosity, and a commitment to personal growth.

Flexibility and freedom in therapy.

Flexibility and freedom in therapy are crucial aspects that can greatly impact both the therapist and the client. 

Flexibility allows therapists to adapt their approach and techniques to meet the unique needs of each client. Ashley had initially considered pursuing a career in fashion or moving to New York. However, due to financial responsibilities and student loans, she decided to utilize her psychology degree and work as a therapist. This decision demonstrates the flexibility she had to make in order to support her son and pay off her debts. By being open to different possibilities and adapting to the circumstances, she was able to find a job that aligned with her skills and interests.

Furthermore, flexibility in therapy allows therapists to be responsive to the changing needs and goals of their clients. Ashley initially did not want to work with children but found herself working with them in her first job. However, she discovered a love for working with kids and found it to be a profound and life-changing experience. This demonstrates how being open to new experiences and adapting to different client populations can lead to unexpected growth and fulfillment in therapy.

In addition to flexibility, freedom in therapy is also crucial.She mentioned that she decided to transition to a different job after five years of working in a high-intensity setting. She desired more flexibility and freedom to be with her child. This highlights the importance of work-life balance and the need for therapists to prioritize their own well-being and personal lives. By seeking out a job that provides more flexibility, therapists can create a healthier and more fulfilling work environment for themselves.

Freedom in therapy allows clients to feel empowered and in control of their own healing journey. Ashley mentioned how she appreciated having someone tell her what to do when she was feeling burnt out in grad school. By providing clients with the freedom to make choices and take ownership of their healing process, therapists can empower them to overcome challenges and achieve their goals.

Internal Family Systems empowers change.

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a therapeutic modality that empowers individuals to create change from within. It recognizes that within each person, there are multiple parts that make up their internal system. These parts can be seen as different aspects of the individual’s personality, each with its own unique characteristics and motivations. The goal of IFS is to help individuals understand and connect with these parts, and ultimately, to find harmony and balance within themselves.

In this episode, Megan talks about the transformative power of IFS in the lives of both therapists and clients. Ashley shares her experience of transitioning from working in an agency to starting her own private practice. Initially, she felt afraid and uncertain about this change, but when she shared her decision with her boss, he expressed his support and decided to join her in this new venture. This moment of validation and support brought a sense of relief and confirmation that she was on the right path. It highlights how IFS can provide individuals with the courage and confidence to make significant life changes.

Internal Family Systems empowers change by providing individuals with the tools and understanding to explore and connect with their internal selves It encourages flexibility, adaptability, and self-compassion, allowing individuals to make meaningful changes in their lives. 

If you are interested in learning more about Internal Family Systems and therapy, make sure to check out this interview with Ashley on the shift your shit podcast! 

 

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Meet Megan Bayles Bartley

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Megan Bayles Bartley is a mental health and relationship expert. Over the last twenty years, she has honed her unique skills as a therapist and now shares her knowledge with you on her podcast – Shifting Our Shit. In Part 1 of this episode, she talks about her past and how she ended up becoming a therapist. Listen further to Episode 1, Part 2 where she talks about her own experience with therapy over the last 30-plus year.

About Megan.

 

In this episode, Megan addresses the common feeling of being stuck in a routine, like a hamster on a hamster wheel, and not making any progress. She acknowledges the midlife stage as a time for reassessment and reflect on whether if she has accomplished all that she has set out to do in life and if she feels fulfilled. It is normal to question what is working and what is not during this phase.

 

Megan emphasizes the importance of reclaiming one’s time, energy, and joy in order to make the most out of the second half of life. She invites listeners who resonate with these feelings to join her on this podcast journey. She introduces herself as Megan Bayles Bartley and expresses her excitement about hosting the podcast solo, though she will be accompanied by the therapy dog, Lemon Drop.

 

Megan shares her background, starting with growing up in Seattle, Washington, and attending the University of Washington. She initially wanted to become a naturopathic physician and created her own major called Community Health Management. However, after struggling with hard science classes, she switched gears and explored art as a potential career path. Eventually, her interest in wellness versus illness led her to pursue a degree in marriage and family therapy at the Presbyterian seminary in Louisville, Kentucky.

 

During her time in Tucson, Arizona, working for the Presbyterian Church, Megan discovered her passion for listening, talking, and counseling while interacting with students at the University of Arizona. This experience prompted her to pursue a career as a therapist. With the church’s support, she applied to a seminary program that offered a degree in marriage and family therapy. This field aligned with her systemic approach, focusing on understanding individuals within the context of her various systems and influences.

 

Megan moved to Louisville, Kentucky, to pursue her master’s degree and had a great experience. She met her husband while in Louisville but eventually moved to Austin, Texas, where she practiced as a therapist for 11 years. Nine years ago, they returned to Louisville and started her solo therapy practice.

 

The podcast episode ends with Megan’s introduction to the upcoming season, where she will explore mindfulness and the Mindfulness team. However, the overarching theme of reassessing and reclaiming one’s life remains prevalent throughout the episode.

 

Finding peace in midlife.

After three years of starting a solo therapy practice in Louisville, Megan decided to expand and create the Mindfulness Center, a space for therapists to practice and develop their own practice within. 

 

The goal of the Mindfulness Center is to help people find peace, joy, and a sense of calm in their lives.

 

  • Megan shares that her own experience of being a fairly anxious person in her younger years, growing up in an emotionally unstable household, led her to become controlling and perfectionistic. She emphasizes the importance of therapy in her own life and how it has shaped her as the founding director of the Mindfulness Center.

 

  • Megan also discusses the challenges that many high-functioning individuals face as they reach their 40s and 50s. She refers to this stage as the “fuck it 40s,” where individuals may feel overwhelmed, tired, and worn out. It is a time of redefining one’s life and asking important questions about what they want out of life and how they want to live the second half of their life.

 

  • Megan acknowledges that many high achievers find it difficult to give themselves permission to not constantly achieve and to simply enjoy where they have gotten to. High achievers explore the idea of finding fulfillment in relaxation and enjoying the present moment, which can be challenging for those who are type A personalities.

 

  • The episode also touches on the idea of preparing for the future, such as when children leave the house and exploring new opportunities for travel or personal growth. Megan discusses her own mindset of always looking for the next challenge and how she enjoys taking on home improvement projects.

 

Prioritize self-awareness as a therapist.

Therapists play a crucial role in helping individuals navigate through their emotional and mental struggles. They provide support, guidance, and tools for personal growth and healing. However, it is essential for therapists to prioritize self-awareness in their own lives. This podcast episode emphasizes the significance of therapists seeking their own therapy and being self-aware in their practice.

 

  • One of the main reasons therapists could prioritize self-awareness is to ensure they are providing the best possible care to their clients. By engaging in therapy themselves, therapists gain insight into their own emotions, triggers, and biases. This self-reflection allows them to better understand their clients’ experiences and offer more empathetic and effective treatment. It also helps therapists recognize and address any personal issues that may interfere with their ability to provide unbiased and objective support.

 

  • Moreover, therapists who prioritize self-awareness are more likely to be high-functioning professionals. Megan mentions that clients may not go further than their therapists have gone, suggesting that therapists need to continuously challenge themselves and strive for personal growth. Being aware of their own emotional state and personal limitations allows therapists to better manage their own well-being and prevent burnout. It also enables them to model healthy coping mechanisms and resilience for their clients.

 

  • Furthermore, self-aware therapists are better equipped to handle the complexities and nuances of therapy. As Megan suggests, therapists who are emotionally aware can adapt to the ever-changing dynamics of each session. They can respond appropriately to their clients’ needs and emotions, creating a safe and supportive environment for healing. By being self-aware, therapists can also recognize when they need to seek consultation or refer clients to other professionals who may be better suited to address specific issues.

 

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The Magic of Ted Lasso

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Megan and Rob are back with Season 1, Episode 27 of the SOS Podcast, where they talk about their weekend plans and the idea of “calling your shot” as seen in the popular show Ted Lasso. Megan shares her recent experience of appearing on live TV and feeling confident in her performance, while Rob hints at a personal accomplishment related to hypnosis. The hosts delve into the benefits of Ericksonian hypnosis, which Megan is studying and finds to be a natural and effective form of healing.

 

Ted Lasso inspires natural healing.

Ted Lasso, the popular television series, has become a source of inspiration for natural healing. The show’s main character, Ted Lasso, is a positive and optimistic coach who inspires his team to reach their full potential. His message of positivity and kindness has resonated with viewers and has even inspired some to explore natural healing techniques.

 

One of the most memorable scenes from the show is when Ted Lasso is at a bar with the owner of the club and her ex-husband. He talks about the importance of not judging others and being curious. He even calls his shot in a game of darts, choosing “barbecue sauce” as his target. This scene has become a symbol of the show’s message of positivity and optimism and has inspired many to adopt a similar mindset.

 

Megan has been inspired by Ted Lasso’s message of natural healing. She is currently studying the Ericksonian hypnosis technique, which is based on neuroscience and gene expression. This technique is more conversational and indirect than traditional hypnosis and focuses on natural healing through positive suggestion and visualization.

 

Megan sees the Ericksonian hypnosis technique as the epitome of natural healing. It is a way to tap into the body’s natural healing abilities and to promote positive change through positivity and suggestion. She believes that this technique can be a powerful tool for anyone looking to improve their mental and physical health.

 

The message of Ted Lasso is one of positivity, kindness, and natural healing. The show has inspired many to adopt a similar mindset and to explore natural healing techniques like the Ericksonian hypnosis technique. By promoting positivity and kindness, Ted Lasso has become a symbol of hope and healing for many and has inspired a new generation of natural healers.

 

Ericksonian therapy.

Ericksonian therapy is a form of hypnosis that focuses on storytelling and shifting perspectives. This technique is often used to help people get unstuck and to facilitate aha moments. In the show, Ted Lasso, the titular character exhibits many traits that align with Ericksonian therapy. For example, he often tells stories and uses metaphors to teach lessons, allowing the listener to come up with their own answers and perspectives. This technique is effective because it allows the listener to wire the lesson into their brain in a more meaningful way.

 

Ted Lasso’s coaching team also exhibits traits of Ericksonian therapy. Each member has their own specific role, and Ted doesn’t get into a hardcore, tell-you-what-to-do parental role. Instead, he trusts his team to come up with their own solutions and perspectives. This promotes a sense of collaboration and trust, which are important aspects of Ericksonian therapy.

 

In addition to promoting positivity and kindness, Ted Lasso also explores natural healing techniques like EMDR. While EMDR is not technically part of Ericksonian therapy, it does share some similarities. For example, both techniques focus on shifting perspectives and facilitating aha moments. In the show, Ted inadvertently teaches others to adopt these techniques, promoting natural healing and self-discovery.

 

Overall, Ted Lasso is a great example of how positivity, kindness, and natural healing techniques can be effective in promoting mental health and well-being. By exploring Ericksonian therapy and other natural healing techniques, the show has inspired a new generation of healers and therapists who prioritize collaboration, trust, and kindness in their work.

 

Hypnosis is not mind control.

One of the techniques explored in the podcast is hypnosis, which has often been misunderstood as a form of mind control. However, the episode explains that hypnosis is actually a way of helping individuals relax their conscious thinking just enough so that their subconscious can come into play and either make sense of things or help find order or give more information. It is not about controlling someone’s thoughts or actions, but rather about creating an environment that is accepting, compassionate, and open, and allowing individuals to find their own answers.

 

The podcast also emphasizes that hypnosis is not a one-size-fits-all solution and that everyone processes information differently. Some people are visual learners or processors, while others are audio or kinesthetic feeling-based. Hypnosis, therefore, needs to be tailored to each individual’s unique needs and preferences.

 

Megan and Rob also touch on the power of storytelling in hypnosis. They explain that it doesn’t matter what the story is, but rather the storyteller’s positive trance that invites listeners to also go into a positive trance, making them more willing to hear what is being said. This is similar to how Ted Lasso’s positivity and enthusiasm create a positive environment that inspires and motivates those around him.

 

Remember, hypnosis is not mind control, but rather a natural healing technique that can be effective in promoting mental health and well-being. It is about creating an environment that is accepting, compassionate, and open, and allowing individuals to find their own answers. By understanding and embracing the power of hypnosis, we can help individuals overcome mental health challenges and lead happier and more fulfilling lives.

 

Flexibility in mindfulness practice.

Megan and Rob discuss the concept of flexibility in mindfulness practice. The Mindfulness Center, as the name suggests, aims to help individuals become more mindful, but not necessarily in a rigid or prescriptive way. The center’s therapists do not take an expert role or give advice but rather empower the client to find their own solutions. This approach is based on the idea that individuals have the capacity to activate their subconscious and heal themselves, with the therapist serving as a guide rather than a director.

 

They also highlight the importance of flexibility in the practice of mindfulness. While mindfulness techniques such as breathing exercises can be helpful, they are not the only way to become more mindful. The center’s therapists use a variety of approaches, including Ericksonian techniques, to help clients become more mindful in their own way. This flexibility allows individuals to find what works best for them and to develop their own mindfulness practice.

 

The concept of flexibility in mindfulness practice is important because it recognizes that each individual is unique and that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to mindfulness. By allowing individuals to find their own way of becoming more mindful, the center empowers them to take control of their own mental health and well-being. This approach is in line with the idea of hypnosis as a natural healing technique that promotes mental health and well-being by creating an environment that is accepting, compassionate, and open.

 

Flexibility in mindfulness practice is essential for promoting mental health and well-being. By empowering individuals to find their own way of becoming more mindful, the Mindfulness Center helps them take control of their own mental health and well-being. This approach is in line with the power of hypnosis as a natural healing technique that can help individuals overcome mental health challenges and lead happier and more fulfilling lives.

 

Positive mindset leads to growth.

Megan and Rob discuss the power of positive mindset and how it can lead to growth and progress in various aspects of life. They emphasize the importance of shifting one’s thinking to see a bigger rainbow of options instead of being rigid in one’s beliefs and choices. By doing so, individuals can become more flexible and open-minded in their decision-making, leading to better outcomes and personal growth.

 

Megan and Rob also draw parallels between the positive mindset of the character Ted Lasso in the TV series and the benefits of having a positive trance in one’s personal and professional life. Ted Lasso’s intention to help his players become better human beings, not just better players, is a testament to the power of positive mindset and how it can impact those around us.

 

Furthermore, they highlight the importance of values and their crucial role in shaping our mindset and actions. By staying true to our values and beliefs, we can maintain a positive trance and create positive interactions with others.

 

In conclusion, the podcast reinforces the idea that a positive mindset leads to growth and progress in various aspects of life. By being flexible, open-minded, and true to our values, we can create positive interactions with others and promote our mental health and well-being. The power of a positive mindset and hypnosis as a natural healing technique can help individuals overcome mental health challenges and lead happier and more fulfilling lives.

 

Goodbye and thanks, Megan.

However, Megan and Rob also remind us of the importance of saying goodbye and expressing gratitude. This simple act of saying goodbye and expressing appreciation can have a significant impact on our relationships and our overall well-being.

 

Saying goodbye is an essential part of any relationship, whether it’s a professional or personal one. It allows us to acknowledge the end of a chapter and move forward with a sense of closure. When we say goodbye, we also have the opportunity to express our gratitude to the person we are parting ways with. This expression of gratitude can strengthen our relationships and leave a lasting positive impression.

 

Expressing gratitude is an essential component of positive psychology, which emphasizes the importance of focusing on what is good and positive in our lives. By expressing gratitude, we can shift our focus from negative to positive, promoting our mental health and well-being. Moreover, expressing gratitude can also inspire others to do the same, creating a ripple effect of positivity and kindness.

 

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Aging Mindfully

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In this episode of the SOS Podcast, hosts Megan Bartley and Rob Giltner celebrate Megan’s birthday while discussing the subjective nature of aging and the power of mindfulness in awakening new neural pathways. They also share personal updates and stories, including Megan’s favorite childhood birthday memory. Join them as they shift their sh!t and explore the complexities of life.

Navigate aging with a positive attitude.

Aging is a natural process that we all go through. However, it is often accompanied by fear and anxiety. As we age, we may start to worry about our physical appearance, our health, and our ability to keep up with the fast-paced world around us. But embracing aging with a positive attitude can help us navigate this process with grace and ease.

 

One of the keys to embracing aging is to focus on the positive aspects of getting older. As we age, we gain wisdom and experience that can help us navigate life’s challenges with greater ease. We also have the opportunity to cultivate deeper relationships with those around us, as we have more time and experience to invest in our connections with others.

 

Another important aspect of embracing aging is to take care of our physical and mental health. This means eating a healthy diet, getting regular exercise, and staying mentally engaged through activities like reading, learning new skills, and socializing with others. By taking care of our bodies and minds, we can ensure that we stay healthy and vibrant well into our later years.

 

It is also important to cultivate a positive attitude towards aging. Instead of seeing it as a negative process, we can view it as an opportunity for growth and transformation. By embracing the changes that come with aging, we can learn to appreciate the beauty of life at every stage.

 

In conclusion, embracing aging with a positive attitude is essential for living a happy and fulfilling life. By focusing on the positive aspects of aging, taking care of our physical and mental health, and cultivating a positive attitude, we can navigate the aging process with grace and ease. So let’s embrace aging and all that it has to offer!

 

“Reevaluate priorities in 40s.”

As we age, our priorities and perspectives on life change. In our 40s, we often experience a reevaluation of our priorities and what truly matters in life. This is commonly referred to as the “fuck it 40s” because we become less concerned with things that used to bother us and more focused on what brings us joy and fulfillment.

 

In the SOS podcast, Megan discusses her experience with the “fuck it 40s” and how it has changed her perspective on life. She talks about the realization that material possessions do not hold as much importance as they once did and the importance of focusing on relationships and experiences.

 

Megan also discusses the challenges of being in the “sandwich generation,” where individuals are taking care of their own children while also caring for aging parents. This can be a difficult time, but it also provides an opportunity for reevaluation and reassessment of priorities.

 

One of the key takeaways from this episode is the importance of embracing aging with a positive attitude. Megan discusses her own optimistic outlook on life and the importance of celebrating the fact that she was born. By focusing on the positive aspects of aging, taking care of our physical and mental health, and cultivating a positive attitude, we can navigate the aging process with grace and ease.

 

In conclusion, the “fuck it 40s” provides an opportunity for reevaluation and reassessment of priorities. By focusing on relationships and experiences, taking care of our physical and mental health, and embracing aging with a positive attitude, we can live a happy and fulfilling life. So let’s embrace aging and all that it has to offer!

 

Celebrate all aspects of life.

Megan and Rob’s conversation touches on the topic of celebrating all aspects of life, not just on special occasions like birthdays. They discuss how they have been approaching their own birthdays as they enter their 40s. They reflect on how they have shifted their focus from material gifts to experiences and relationships. They also mention how they have been taking better care of their physical and mental health.

 

The conversation highlights the importance of celebrating all aspects of life, not just the milestones. Megan and Rob talk about how they have been celebrating their accomplishments in work and personal life. They mention how they have been reflecting on their past achievements and optimizing them for the future. They also discuss the importance of taking breaks and traveling as a way to recharge and celebrate life.

 

Their conversation also touches on the topic of aging and how it can be embraced with a positive attitude. Megan and Rob talk about how they have been reevaluating their priorities and focusing on what truly matters in life. They mention how they have been embracing aging as a natural part of life and not something to be feared or avoided.

 

Approach aging with mindfulness.

How can we approach aging with mindfulness? Megan shares her positive attitude towards aging and how she sees it as an opportunity to gain more experience and wisdom. She also mentions how some people tend to fight against aging, which can lead to negative feelings and judgments toward themselves.

 

The concept of mindfulness is introduced as a way to embrace aging. Mindfulness is defined as a nonjudgmental observation of thoughts, feelings, and experiences. By practicing mindfulness, we can become more aware of our thoughts and emotions and learn to accept them without judgment.

 

Megan also talks about the importance of taking care of physical and mental health as we age. This includes getting enough rest, staying active, and seeking support when needed. By prioritizing our health, we can improve our overall well-being and enjoy life to the fullest.

 

Megan and Rob also touch on the idea of letting go of societal expectations and embracing our unique journey. They mention how some people may feel pressure to look a certain way or achieve certain milestones by a certain age. However, by letting go of these expectations, we can focus on our own journey and celebrate our accomplishments, no matter how big or small.

 

Accept and nurture aging gracefully.

Let’s ditch the negative connotations of aging. We can accept and nurture aging gracefully. We can look back on our lives and only focus on what we haven’t achieved can be painful. However, by accepting and nurturing ourselves, we can have a healthy relationship with aging. Mindfulness can play a vital role in this process as it helps us live in the present moment and appreciate what we have.

 

Megan and Rob talk about societal expectations regarding aging, such as the pressure to look youthful. They discuss how people often do things to enhance their appearance, such as coloring their hair or wearing fake eyelashes. While there is nothing wrong with these practices, it is essential to ask ourselves why we are doing them. Are we doing it for ourselves or because we feel pressure from society? By understanding our motivations, we can make more informed decisions about how we want to age.

 

We also need to take care of our health as we age. By eating well, exercising regularly, and getting enough sleep, we can improve our physical and mental well-being. These habits can also help us feel more confident and comfortable in our bodies as we age.

 

Change your perception of aging.

One key takeaway from this episode is the idea of changing our perception of aging. The speakers discuss how our beliefs about what it means to be “old” can limit our potential and affect our health. By challenging these beliefs and adopting a more positive outlook, we can live longer and healthier lives.

 

  1. One way to change our perception of aging is to focus on mindfulness and self-care. Megan and Rob emphasize the importance of taking care of our bodies and minds, whether through exercise, meditation, or other practices. By staying present in the moment and nurturing ourselves, we can reduce stress and improve our overall well-being.

 

  1. Another important aspect of changing our perception of aging is letting go of societal expectations. Megan and Rob point out how our culture often associates aging with decline and loss, but this does not have to be the case. By embracing new experiences and relationships, we can continue to grow and thrive as we age.

 

Ultimately, remember that aging is a natural and inevitable part of life, but it does not have to be a negative one. By changing our perception of aging and embracing all that life has to offer, we can live a happy and fulfilling life at any age.

 

Seek out new experiences.

One way to embrace aging and continue to grow is to seek out new experiences. You can:

  • learning something new
  • taking up a new hobby 
  • travel to new places 

These are exciting ways to build new neural pathways and keep our minds active and engaged. By doing so, we can avoid falling into the trap of autopilot and routine, which can lead to feelings of boredom, stagnation, and even depression.

 

By becoming more conscious of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, we can start to see things from different angles and awaken our autopilot. This can help us become more aware of the opportunities and possibilities that exist around us, and allow us to make more intentional choices about how we want to live our lives.

 

Of course, embracing new experiences can be scary and uncomfortable at times. It can be tempting to stick with what we know and what feels safe, rather than taking risks and trying new things. However, the rewards of stepping outside our comfort zones can be immense. By challenging ourselves and pushing our boundaries, we can discover new strengths, talents, and passions that we never knew we had.

 

Embrace your true self fully.

This means accepting all aspects of yourself, even the ones that others may not understand or appreciate. It’s about being true to who you are and not trying to conform to societal expectations or the expectations of others.

 

Megan talks about how she has always focused on being Megan and not just a wife, mother, or any other label that society may try to place on her. She acknowledges that there are parts of her that may be seen as introverted or not as outgoing as others, but she embraces these aspects of herself and doesn’t try to change them to fit in with others.

 

This is an important message for all of us to hear. We often try to fit into certain boxes or labels, whether it’s at work, in our personal lives, or in society as a whole. We may feel pressure to conform to certain expectations or to be someone we’re not in order to fit in.

 

But the truth is, when we try to be someone we’re not, we’re not being true to ourselves. We’re not living authentically, and we’re not living our best lives. When we embrace our true selves fully, we can live more fulfilling lives and be happier and more content.

 

This doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t strive to improve ourselves or try new things. In fact, the podcast encourages us to embrace new experiences for growth, no matter our age. By doing so, we can continue to learn, grow, thrive, and make the most of the time we have on this earth.

 

In conclusion, embracing your true self fully is essential for living a fulfilling and authentic life. It means accepting all aspects of yourself and not trying to conform to societal expectations or the expectations of others. So let’s embrace who we are and live life to the fullest, no matter our age or circumstances.

 

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Shrinking

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In this episode of the SOS Podcast, hosts Megan and Rob discuss the TV show “Shrinking,” which follows therapists as they navigate their own personal traumas and questionable boundaries with clients. Megan finds the show cringe-worthy but also humorous, while Rob is energized and motivated by the show’s portrayal of therapists working through their own issues. Overall, the hosts have an engaging conversation about the complexities of therapy and the importance of setting healthy boundaries.

What not to do as a therapist.

Therapists must be extremely careful not to tell their clients what to do. This is a boundary that must be respected in order to maintain the therapeutic relationship and ensure the client is receiving the best care possible. Unfortunately, this boundary is often crossed in the popular TV show Shrinking, where the main characters are therapists who sometimes tell their clients what to do, rather than allowing them to form their own conclusions and make their own decisions.

It is important to remember that the therapist is there to provide support and guidance, not to dictate how the client could live their life. A therapist could never use their power or authority to pressure a client into a certain decision or action. Instead, they could listen to the client and help them to explore their options and find the best solution for them. The client could be the one who ultimately makes the decisions about their life and how they want to move forward.

In Shrinking, the main characters often cross this boundary and tell their clients what to do, which can be damaging to the therapeutic relationship. This is especially true when the therapist is trying to help the client leave a toxic relationship or situation. In this case, the therapist could be careful to allow the client to make the decision for themselves and not pressure them into a certain action.

In addition to respecting the client’s autonomy, therapists could also be aware of the potential for dual relationships to form. This is when a therapist and client become involved in a relationship outside of the therapeutic setting, such as a friendship or romantic relationship. This can be dangerous as it can blur the boundaries of the therapeutic relationship and can lead to a conflict of interest.

In conclusion, it is important for therapists to remember not to tell their clients what to do and to respect their autonomy. They could also be aware of the potential for dual relationships to form and take steps to avoid them. By following these guidelines, therapists can ensure that their clients receive the best care possible and that the therapeutic relationship is maintained.

 

Set healthy boundaries in therapy.

Therapy is a powerful tool that can help people work through difficult issues and gain insight into their lives. However, it is important to remember that it is a professional relationship and that it is important to set healthy boundaries. This is especially true when it comes to telling clients what to do.

Therapists could not be telling their clients what to do or what decisions to make. It is important to remember that the client is in control of their own life and they could be allowed to make their own decisions. Instead, therapists could focus on providing their clients with the information they need to make informed decisions. They could also be aware of the potential for dual relationships to form and take steps to avoid them.

Therapists could also be mindful of the potential for their clients to become too attached to them. While it is natural for clients to become attached to their therapist, it is important to remember that the relationship is professional and could remain that way. Therapists could be aware of the signs of an unhealthy attachment and take steps to ensure that the client does not become too attached.

Finally, it is important to remember that the therapeutic relationship is based on trust. Therapists could strive to maintain this trust by being honest and open with their clients. They could also be aware of their own emotions and take steps to ensure that they are not projecting their own feelings onto their clients.

Setting healthy boundaries in therapy is essential to ensure that the therapeutic relationship remains professional and that the client receives the best care possible. Therapists could be aware of the potential for dual relationships to form and take steps to avoid them. They could also be mindful of the potential for their clients to become too attached to them and strive to maintain the trust between them. By following these guidelines, therapists can ensure that their clients receive the best care possible and that the therapeutic relationship is maintained.

Maintain healthy boundaries.

Boundaries are the guidelines that therapists use to maintain a professional, therapeutic relationship. They are essential to ensure that the client is receiving the best possible care. Boundaries could be established early on in the therapeutic relationship and could be discussed with the client. These boundaries could include the topics that will be discussed in therapy, the amount of contact between sessions, and the expectations of the therapist.

Boundaries could also be established to prevent dual relationships from forming. Dual relationships can occur when a therapist and a client become too close or when the therapist begins to treat a client like a friend. This can be damaging to the client and can lead to a breakdown in the therapeutic relationship. To prevent this, therapists could make sure that they maintain a professional relationship with their clients and that they do not share personal information or engage in activities outside of the therapy session.

Therapists could also be aware of the potential for their clients to become too attached to them. This can be a difficult situation for both the client and the therapist, as it can lead to feelings of guilt or confusion. To prevent this, therapists could strive to maintain a trusting relationship with their clients. They could also be aware of their own boundaries and be prepared to set limits when needed.

In conclusion, setting healthy boundaries in therapy is essential to ensure that the therapeutic relationship remains professional and that the client receives the best care possible. Therapists could be aware of the potential for dual relationships to form and take steps to avoid them. They could also be mindful of the potential for their clients to become too attached to them and strive to maintain the trust between them. By following these guidelines, therapists can ensure that their clients receive the best care possible and that the therapeutic relationship is maintained.

Mindfulness aids mental health.

Mindfulness has become an increasingly popular tool for helping people to manage their mental health. Mindfulness is a form of meditation that focuses on being present at the moment and paying attention to one’s thoughts and feelings without judgment. It has been found to be effective in treating a variety of mental health issues, including anxiety, depression, and stress.

Mindfulness is beneficial for mental health in a number of ways:

  1. First, it helps people to become more aware of their thoughts and feelings. This increased awareness can help people to identify patterns in their thoughts and feelings that may be contributing to their mental health issues. For example, if someone is feeling anxious, they may be able to recognize that they are ruminating on negative thoughts and feelings. This awareness can help them to take steps to address the underlying issue.
  2. Second, mindfulness can help to reduce stress. When people are mindful, they are less likely to become overwhelmed by their thoughts and feelings. Instead, they can observe them without judgment and take steps to reduce their stress levels. This can be done through activities such as deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and guided imagery.
  3. Third, mindfulness can help to increase self-compassion. People who practice mindfulness are more likely to be kinder and more understanding of themselves. This can help them to be more accepting of their own mistakes and to be less critical of themselves. This can be especially beneficial for those who struggle with low self-esteem or perfectionism.
  4. Finally, mindfulness can help to improve the quality of relationships. People who practice mindfulness are better able to be present in their relationships and to be more understanding of their partner’s feelings. This can lead to more meaningful and fulfilling relationships.

Overall, mindfulness can be a powerful tool for improving mental health. It can help people to become more aware of their thoughts and feelings, reduce stress, increase self-compassion, and improve their relationships. For these reasons, mindfulness is an important tool for mental health professionals and those seeking to improve their mental health.

Ways to practice mindfulness.

  • One way to practice mindfulness is to focus on the present moment. This can be done by focusing on the breath, observing thoughts without judgment, and being mindful of one’s physical sensations. By focusing on the present moment, we can become more aware of our thoughts and feelings, which can help us to better understand ourselves and our reactions to certain situations. This can also help us to become more aware of how we interact with others and how our behavior impacts our relationships.
  • Mindfulness can also be used to expand our perspective on certain issues. This can be done by questioning our assumptions and looking at situations from different angles. By doing this, we can open ourselves up to new possibilities and gain a better understanding of the situation. This can help us to make more informed decisions and find solutions that we may have overlooked before.
  • Lastly, mindfulness can be used to cultivate self-compassion. This can be done by recognizing our own pain and suffering and offering ourselves kindness and understanding. By doing this, we can learn to accept ourselves and our flaws, rather than judging ourselves harshly. This can help us to become more resilient in the face of difficult emotions and better able to cope with challenging situations.

Overall, mindfulness can be a powerful tool for improving mental health. It can help us to become more aware of our thoughts and feelings, expand our perspective on certain issues, and cultivate self-compassion. By practicing mindfulness, we can gain a better understanding of ourselves and our relationships, and find ways to better cope with difficult emotions and challenging situations.

Expand your compassion.

Einstein famously said, “A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. We experience ourselves, our thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of our consciousness.” This quote speaks to the idea of expanding our compassion to include all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty. When we are so caught up in our own narrow view of ourselves and what is best for us, we can easily forget the interconnectedness of all things.

Mindfulness can help us to expand our compassion in a number of ways. Firstly, it can help us to become more aware of our own thoughts and feelings, which can lead to greater understanding and empathy for others. Mindfulness can also help us to become more aware of our own biases and prejudices, and to recognize and challenge them. Finally, mindfulness can help us to recognize the interconnectedness of all things and to cultivate compassion for all living creatures.

To cultivate greater compassion, we can practice mindfulness through conflict. This means recognizing and accepting our own emotions and those of others and using them as a tool to become more mindful. We can also use mindfulness to become more open and compassionate towards those with whom we may disagree. Finally, we can use mindfulness to create a safe space to explore different perspectives and to become more mindful of our own beliefs and values.

By expanding our compassion, we can create a more peaceful and compassionate world. Through mindfulness, we can become more aware of our own thoughts and feelings, recognize our biases and prejudices, and cultivate understanding and empathy for others. We can also use mindfulness to become more open and compassionate towards those with whom we may disagree and to create a safe space to explore different perspectives. By expanding our compassion, we can create a more peaceful and compassionate world.

Trust your instincts.

Trusting your instincts is an important concept to remember in life. We all have a natural intuition that can help guide us in the right direction. By trusting our instincts, we can make decisions that are in our best interest and that will lead us to a more positive outcome.

However, it is important to remember that our intuition could not be the only factor in making decisions. We could also consider our own code of ethics and morals, as well as the opinions of those around us. It is important to be mindful of our own biases and prejudices and to be open to different perspectives. We could also be aware of our own limitations and be willing to seek advice and help from others when necessary.

Trusting your instincts is an important concept in life, but it could be balanced with other considerations. By being mindful of our own biases and prejudices, and by being open to different perspectives, we can make decisions that are in our best interest and that will lead us to a more positive outcome.

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Hypnosis Made Simple: Hand Mirroring Exercise

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In our most recent episode (#27) of Shifting Our Shit (S.O.S.) Podcast (CLICK HERE to listen), I referenced a cool technique I’ve been reading about in Creating Consciousness: How Therapists Can Facilitate Wonder, Wisdom, Truth, & Beauty called Hand Mirroring. As promised in that episode I promised to make a video and offer it for you for free! Please fill out the form below to instantly receive the video link AND have the video link emailed to you! I hope you enjoy it!

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